posted on Feb, 19 2020 @ 01:51 PM
a reply to: DiddyC
I want to give you my support, and a bit of advice.
First and foremost, don't be embarrassed. You have no grounds for that. She has.
I am a guy, just like you are, and in a former relationship with a woman i was subjected to mental abuse and unfaithfulness. That relationship ended
about 15 years ago. There were wonderful periods of time, then all hell broke loose, and we broke up. We started missing each other and ended up back
together. Repetitive cycle. And then, one break-up was final. And it was for the better.
I really can't understand why i kept on forgiving, just to get hurt again. But at that time, i thought that even with all the BS, it was love. Now i
know that it wasn't. I am a believer of people's ability to change, but some behavioral patterns seem to be fixed into an individual's DNA. Like being
prone to physical or mental violence.
Look, i am not going to give you an advice such as "leave her now" or "stay with her and try to work your issues out somehow" because i only see your
OP, i don't see the whole picture.
What i am going to advice you to do, is to look within yourself for the final answer. Ask yourself "am i actually happy in this relationship with
her?" "Is this what i want from my life?" "Are there possibilities for things to improve over time, and with effort?"
These things are unbelievably hard no matter what you choose to do. Try to stay strong. I understand you, at least in this case.