originally posted by: Peeple
a reply to: LoveSolMoonDeath
BS. If I love someone I want that person to be happy to have as much joy and everything he could want. That person becomes your life, even more
important than your life. That's control. Total control.
If I fear someone I just want to get away.
I actually came back to spend my last hour responding to you, because I feel it's really important and I care about you.
I just needed to grab another cup of coffee first and have a short break to think it over.
We need to talk about Control and how Fear and Love relate to it. I feel that the reason you are bitter about all of this is because you - just like I
or anyone else - need to learn more. Our suffering comes from our lack of understanding - not from outside sources. Everything comes from and exists
All of these external stimuli are little more than illusions, they may seem real - but we do not know the full story or all the facts about it. So our
perceptions are limited and do not represent the full Truth of the matter.
Even our own perceptions of ourselves are often riddled with inaccuracies and lack of information. This is unavoidable in most circumstances and must
be accounted for and we need a plan to handle and cope with it effectively.
The Truth creates paradoxes between that which is and isn't, this is the Balance of the universe itself. All electromagnetic charges exist in perfect
balance and any changes within the system are accounted for elsewhere with other changes. What's magical is that the whole system shifts
automatically, instantaneously as these alterations are made.
This is exactly how everything around us works apparently, it retains Balance no matter what is done. Push comes to shove, and what goes up must come
down eventually, so to speak.
Love is only "Control" in that it represents the highest form of Self-Control. Once you control You, than you may fulfill your intent and perfectly
express your Will.
In the opposite side of this Balance, Love also represents Acceptance of what is. It represents the complete rejection of any attempt to control
others, because you finally understand that they are on their path and you cannot skip them forward 100 steps even if you wanted to. So therefore
control is a reckless and pointless endeavor that always ends up in disaster and unintended consequences. This is a fact of all our lives.
So the only way to really control other humans or events is to ACCEPT You cannot achieve this personally. Only God, the Creator, the Conscious Force
of All that is (whatever you want to call it) - can Control anything. And in fact, God controls ALL that is ever was or will be. 100% total complete
control via Love and Acceptance.
The absolute most important thing you can do is Let Go of All these trials and tribulations, these chains that bind you to your suffering and pain.
You must allow God to handle it. You need to focus on discovering and cultivating Faith and Hope for better. God WILL definitely, without a doubt,
save you from it all. Ask and you shall receive. You may not get what you currently want, but you'll definitely get what you Need so that your future
may be brighter and full of Joy. And that's all that matters in the end, isn't it? Happiness?
I know all about spending years worshiping someone else in the vain desire that they would respond the way I wanted, that they'd Validate ME by
showing me that Love and Adoration back. That they'd favor me as their champion and worship me in return. They reacted like a black hole, sucking in
all my Light and Energy, destroying everything that was Me.
I didn't even expect that to happen. I am still confused and shocked about it years later. It was devastating and ripped my Heart out and sliced it,
pulverized it, into countless pieces. Such destruction felt impossible to repair.
But I turned to God because I lost all other options. I had zero % chance of changing that which was. And somehow, by pure Miracle, God came to the
rescue and started putting my fragile shattered Heart back together, this time stronger and more powerful than ever before.
Does my Love control others? No.
Should it? No.
Can it if I try harder? Nope...
Does God control everything? Yes.
But God IS Love see? Love does Control Everything via Acceptance and Allowance. Not by Force.
All lies will eventually crumble, and the Truth (God) will always remain and prevail. Always. That is why Love is destructive, and it doesn't matter
whose hands it is in. It could be the best of us or the worst of us, because Love is the Light and the Truth - and it destroys all that is a Lie and
Wrong. It destroys the BS entirely.
So if Love is seeming destructive, that means that what is going on is wrong. If it unleashes the cataclysm, than that's because one was desperately
needed to bring us to the Truth and find our Happiness.
You are blaming this person for your feelings, your failures and your shortcomings and even your own misery. And you're wrong about it because You are
the One in Control of You.
It's OK to be a failure, I am and I'm #ing awesome lol. Being a failure doesn't define Me. I'm finding out how to be Successful and Achieve - Failure
is a part of that process to help me get a grip on Me.
Don't waste your time blaming anyone or anything. Life happens exactly as it is for each of us because we are on specific paths toward the Light. We
are surrounded by the darkness and so must accept and deal with that by focusing on our inner power, our Love. We are literally becoming that Light,
it's not at the end of the tunnel it's way deep down the well into your own self.
Yes I understand fully the desire to want Justice for all things wrong. To want GOOD and RIGHT in the face of so much BAD and WRONG. So much cruelty
But you and I don't know the full story about anyone, even ourselves half the time. We don't have all the facts. So therefore we are not in a position
to accurately judge anyone - even our worst enemy.
When there is EVIL we cannot do anything except turn it over to God and say "Please God deal with this!! It's destroying me and I cannot handle the
burden any longer! Bring Justice to these people for their crimes!". And rest assured, Justice will come in the most unexpected and surprising ways
and it will be swift and complete.
But keep in mind that God Loves everyone, even the most flawed and foolish of us (like me). God is very merciful when we change our ways and try our
best to do better. Being angry at anyone is simply not doing better, it's just doing worse. So let God have all that anger and resentment and allow it
to be worked out outside of yourself. You do not benefit at all from trying to handle anger, it only burns you and creates horrible scars.
Once you realize just how powerful and decisive God's Righteous Justice is - you will find yourself begging for Mercy for your worst enemies because
you realized that even they don't know better and are ignorant selfish fools bumbling around blindly trashing everything. They just simply don't know
what they do, and this goes for all of us in this regard. We are all guilty as sin.
That's where Forgiveness must come in. It is the ONLY SOLUTION to this pain. You must Forgive all for what they have done. This way maybe God will
favor your efforts and Forgive you too for all the mistakes you've made.