posted on Nov, 26 2019 @ 09:19 PM
Well, I'm glad you didn't take it harshly. I got back online to comment that I didn't mean to make it sound as if I were directing my post directly to
I do understand that not everyone is tough, but I guess where we differ is that I don't feel a strong desire to look after other adults who should at
least be working towards being self-sufficient adults. I had a cold childhood. My father never allowed me to be a child. It was only ever school,
beatings, and work. No friends, no love. I'm not making excuses, as I have friends and love and all that now. But I realized at a young age that the
world isn't a fair place. That I can't help everyone and that the only people I can help are the people who are trying to help themselves first.
I very rarely had help growing up. My teachers despised me, if I missed classes there was no catch-up for me. I didn't develop socially until my
mid-twenties because I didn't know how to relate to people. I had to teach myself how to do math so I could do electrical work and later score well
enough on the ASVAB to tell the recruiter that no matter what he promised I didn't want to be a nuke. I had to teach myself how to be friendly to
people first before people wanted to be friendly with me. I had to teach myself how to love myself first before I could love others.
So, I'll help people who can show me that they just need a hand to help them get back on their own feet.
But more often than not all I hear is complaining, excuses, and people looking for a handout or some subconscious desire for someone to be an adult
If a person really isn't happy with what they've got currently in life they can either realize that they have to be the one to make changes or they
need to just accept that they are going to be working in a factory or a warehouse for the rest of their life.
To be completely frank I really only ever have concern over children and elderly people.
What I want for my brother is to stand on his own two feet and provide for himself and his loved ones. I want him to take care of himself and his
health so that he may live a long life along with the ones he loves.
I don't want my brother working a BS job thinking that's all he's good for, but some people don't have the drive and I'm not going to be the one
trying to push a mule out of the factory.
Some of my good friends were born in caves in Iran during the late 80s. Some of them were born in lower castes, or inner cities surrounded by drugs,
guns, and every woman they knew was a prostitute. Each and every single one of them could have went down a bad path, complaining about injustice, and
screw the man, and everything is the fault of something else out of their control.
But they took control. Did what they had to get away from where they were. Hustled and didn't let the banks control their money. Now many of them are
content where they are right here in the US, and most of them own their own businesses.
So when I here someone making weak excuses about why they can't do better I just ignore it, because as cold as many would think it is. I know that if
they really wanted more they would go after it and the fact that they think they are stuck in some job they hate is proof enough.
They're weak and if they don't want more out of life and to be able to provide for themselves I shouldn't be the one to have to bear the burden.