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Sometimes people don't have someone to talk to in real life.
(Narcissists use sex as a bonding tool to hook you on their energy. Sex can be an excellent instrument for inducing trance states, which is how they seize control of your attention. Naturally, during deep sharing all of your attention is on your partner. Using a method called bait-and-switch, they amplify intensity and then quickly withdraw. It gives them a way to test how deeply invested you are in them.
originally posted by: BrianDavis
a reply to: Fools
I know its chaotic, I dont know how to be a man because I used to drink and be angry. Now she drinks because she says she needs to unwind and yet she knows the dangers of drinking for the wrong reasons.
Her mother makes demands of her and when shes so busy she reckons she hasnt the time and yet still runs to help her and forgives her controlling beghaviour she says her mother drove her father to death.
She uses sex as a weapon like I said about the romance.
I have asked her not to bring work home because really it isnt expected she bring work by home her employer. But shes always chasing and trying to overachieve and exhausts herself and theres never time for us.
Whenever I tried to wear the pants she saw that as being not so "new agey" but like an old fashioned "husband" that wants everything. Like she'll let the house be dirty and then she'll sweep mop do 3 loads of wash and be completely exhausetd.
Or shell spend all day in the garden but forget to rest or eat or the rest of the chores
I helped her through her depression and her numerous suicide attempts
I see a man violating every manner of trust and loyalty to the woman he swore vows to love, honor and cherish.
Your contempt doenst bother me.
You are a female and you would know how females always keep that special ace or secret for a rainy day.
She never seemed to find the time to do long term counselling because she would alwasy get the highs and lows the chase and the catch career wise and always trying to do more at work because she reckons shes a perfectionist.