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I don't mean to be insensitive but it is not healthy for you to play therapist for your mom.
originally posted by: scraedtosleep
Now that you know that here is my rant.
This person who is finally kinda happy after a lifetime of misery is getting old.
So her body is falling apart. We will all experience this at some point. But mom doesn't seem to be caring about her physical impairments. For example: She almost can't hear at all anymore. The state pays for her hearing tests, that she did take, and for her hearing aid. The only thing she has to pay for is 20$ monthly for the batteries.
She refuses to wear them.
I try to explain to her the dangers of not being able to hear when you drive but the look on her face is like she doesn't understand what I'm saying, or can't hear me. She just acts like she is listening. If the truth is that she can't hear me and doesn't say so , why ? Why would anyone do that??
But if the truth is that she just doesn't understand that there is danger in what she is doing how do I prove it to her with out her shutting down? Because I'm a guy. And she is terrified of men.
I have only ever tried to be patient with her. I never even yelled at her about the neglect or that she never stepped in to stop my step dad from beating on me. What I did was apologias to her for running away and acknowledged that I hurt her when I ran.
But even so, even when I am super careful with my wording and calm this person doesn't seem to understand or care or hear what I'm saying about there actions being dangerous.
Others include leaving lit candles on a shelf in a closet with clothing hung above the candles.
Literally refusing to ever drink water.
She also has night blindness but still drives at night for super unimportant reasons, like she wants a soft drink.
Recently her arthritis has spread into her shoulders. Making it very painful for her to turn her head to the left. She can now no longer look behind her while driving.
She is refusing to let me drive her around.
Am I wrong to feel like this is so important? It's the idea that she might kill someone in a car wreak that is pushing me to rant here. If she killed herself then it was the choice she made and I'll be ok with that. But if she hurts someone else I'm not sure if I would feel the same way about her as I do know.
originally posted by: scraedtosleep
a reply to: olaru12
You have to call the cops to take away her car keys.
Doing that would damage her . Losing that sense of independence she may never recover. All these years of helping her become happy would be undone.
But it might come to something like this if things get worse.
which does not always happen when one has difficult childhood circumstances.