a reply to: caterpillage
Now I have worked it out. You are saying happy birthday to her sister! My mind does not register saying happy birthday to people who have passed away.
May be it is a difference of culture? Sorry, my bad! It was the Slash, Teri thing. Saying happy birthday Slash then with Teri at the end. Birthdays
and death days! Perhaps death days are a birthday of another kind? Jesus taught that it was so. My own death does not worry me, but having to witness
the deaths of close people is a bloody nightmare. I have had enough of that already.
I've got my mind on some problems of my own right now, no nice memories from some experiences. Damn, my life is a constant uphill battle with no
relent. I mentioned about a "million hooks" in another thread. Yes, that is how many you have to pull out of yourself. Once you pull out one there is
I was just thinking that one thing I do is not think too much about death. Life is for thinking about life. May be because it is hard I keep clinging
to that as a way to remain enthusiastic? May be we all do that to some degree?
Jesus said a strange thing that we might take offensively if He said it to us just as we were burying a close relative. He told his followers "Let the
dead bury the dead". If He told that to me as I was burying my own I would totally understand this and take it as help. It has been a great help to
me. He is meaning they have gone, passed on and their lives are no longer here. If we waste all our time on what has gone, that no amount of tears can
ever bring back, it is a pointless task. Life is concerned with what is alive. Loss has taught me that death is as common as birth, a universal human
experience and as much a part of the universe as birth. Therer is a place for both. Death is totally out of our control. We avoid it like the plague,
but it can't be stopped as an inevitability. I have seen it happen a lot in my life and work.
I pin every hope on this Resurrection and the Kingdom Jesus spoke of. Life would be pointless and totally intolerable for a soul like me if there is
no future in it. What would be the point of investing anything in a business you know was going to go bust at any time with all your savings in it?
If I did not believe in something more than this I would have no hope or interest. Because I believe in more than this I have enthusiasm, a sense of
purpose and the tools to handle the worst kinds of grief and loss this life may present. It is very much like being a soldier in a war for me.
Perhaps this may comfort the OP or she may hate it. For me it is tough talking and comfort to keep me going when I have to answer the emotions grief
In spite of death, in the shadow of death, I try to keep dancing. It is survivalism. "O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?"
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