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originally posted by: carewemust
a reply to: JAGStorm
When my 9 month-old Grandson is dropped off to be babysat, I thoroughly enjoy him!...for about 2 hours. After that, the main goal is to get him to SLEEP.
originally posted by: incoserv
Just this,
44% of Millennials See Their Pets as Starter Children, and That’s a Big Opportunity for Brands
and an observation that many will never get past that "starter."
originally posted by: JAGStorm
Child rearing is hard, often unappreciated work, but quite possibly the most important work of all.
Nobody wants to do it!
I think we've all seen a trend lately, nobody wants to watch kids. Moms and dads are too busy working/surviving.
I saw on social media people practically begging for a nanny and babysitter.
I did a quick search, there are a THOUSAND jobs looking for sitters, nannies and child care workers.
The pay is around 14 bucks and still no takers!!
This will be here before we know it:
This Robot Takes Care of Your Children
www.nextnature.net...
originally posted by: JAGStorm
I think we've all seen a trend lately, nobody wants to watch kids.
originally posted by: DanDanDat
originally posted by: JAGStorm
I think we've all seen a trend lately, nobody wants to watch kids.
Is this true? I don't have any statistics on hand to say ether way; but anecdotally my opinion is that this was a much bigger problem when I was a kid than it is now.
Back in the 70s and 80s we had "latchkey kids" now we have "helicopter parents".
originally posted by: Nyiah
In the case of only married working parents here, it's crap. Single/divorced ones are a different ball of wax, but let's agree to think of this dual working parent junk logically.
It's crap. Willfully raising latch key kids when you can choose otherwise is crap.
BTDT, latch key kid of divorced parents, but at least I had a SAH stepmom I could go over to my dad's house and spend time with.
I spent so much time with her and she dove right on in. She didn't necessarily play mom, so much as she was a mentor & confidante. Mine wasn't exactly up to snuff when she had a job, nor when she didn't, so the traditional nuclear stability at my dad's house meant quite a bit to me and my younger brother. So much so for my younger brother that he moved in with my dad & stepmom at 11 (hindsight is 20/20 -- I should have done the same)
He has no regrets for his choice to date, and he hasn't spoken to our mom beyond basic "I'm going good, gotta go" avoidance on SM in about 15 years. The latch key stuff is only part of it, our mother's a regular piece of work. My older brother stopped talking to her 12 years ago.
That's a gripe for a different thread topic, however.
My husband and I are staunch adherents to the nuclear dynamic. We firmly agree we had better have a damn good reason for me to start working again before the kids can stay home alone and we trust they won't kill each other or burn the house down -- our personal threshold to be met -- such as medical issues or outright death. Even he agrees "I want more spending money!" is not a legit reason -- that's what budgets and saving is for.
There is no point to having kids if you're just going to shuttle them off to others to care for them while you work when you don't have to. This, we believe very strongly.
Kids gravitate toward that nuclear stability naturally, it's ingrained to seek it. Why the hell someone would pick their job over their offspring when they can do the reverse with relative ease, or financial adjustments, is beyond me. Money isn't that important.
Whichever parent is the breadwinner by leaps and bounds, sure, stay employed. That's a no-brainer, it doesn't HAVE to be mom to be the SAH, though. If you can definitely manage on one income, DO. IT. The SAH parent is doing their real job, raising what you decided to make and keep.