a reply to: Puppylove
Thank you so much for responding... and with so much thought and feeling. I very much appreciate it, and I apologize if I put you in a difficult
position. It makes me appreciate your response that much more. And I've gotta say I'm very impressed by your capacity for introspection and
understanding your deeper self, perhaps your higher self. I'm sure it wasn't easy or pleasant, but I'm thinking it has helped you shine in many ways.
Good for you!!!
You've actually helped me understand much too -- which I also appreciate! I can relate in some ways. I'll bet most people can to one extent or
another. Especially in terms of how we fit society's "ideal." I always feel like the proverbial bull in a china shop. I'm not dainty, graceful or
classy. I swear like a sailor. I'm not at all into clothes or jewelry or makeup. I've just resigned myself to never being that cute girl society
adores... and I have a sister-in-law and daughter that are!
I think we all find society's stereotypes restricting -- and dare I say ridiculous? -- in some way.
I'm wondering how we got to this point. I came of age in the '70s, when gender stereotypes were being smashed to smithereens. And I was raised to be
as resourceful and self-sufficient as my brothers, so even at home stereotypes were thrown out the window. I probably "earned" more merit badges than
most boy scouts.
What really horrifies me about where the Trans Activism is going though, is that while the worst stereotypes are embraced and glorified, the very real
need for safeguarding is thrown out the window. Of course I don't believe that every man -- transgender or otherwise -- is a violent predator. But
we know that many men are, and that reasonable and practical safeguards have to be taken. When my kids were young, my husband never ever gave a ride
to one of their female friends alone. Either I gave them a ride, or our kids accompanied my husband if he gave them a ride. I never ever for a
minute thought my husband was a creeper, but it was a practical and reasonable safeguard to protect everyone and reassure their parents their child
was safe. So when I see any and all safeguards ridiculed and minimized -- like single-sex spaces -- it sends up red flags for me.
And when I read (as I did this morning) that Daily Mail has been court-ordered not to report the transgender status of violent criminals, and that
Trans Activists in Australia are petitioning to ban all news media from reporting the transgender status of violent suspects/criminals, it scares the
bejeezus out of me... which in turn makes me see red.
I don't want to just ramble here. But you've given me much to think about, and I thank you.
And FYI, I realized too late -- so again, my apologies -- that you might get some backlash for sharing your non-Trans Activist approved thoughts. I
was very sad to read that another person had gotten grief from the trans cheerleaders here for expressing themselves. If I'm going to engage in this
topic -- and I am! -- I need to do better in standing up for others as well. So I just want to promise you I'll have your back. And anyone else in
such a position, in this thread or any other.
On the plus side, for whatever reason, the worst of the Trans Activists haven't spewed their crap here on ATS, and I very much doubt the Mods would
tolerate it anyway!