Race debate. Attraction towards other ethnicities.

whos attracted to burn victims???!!!??!?!?!?!!?

a reply to: tadaman

If you like someone’s skin color or ethnicity, you are not racist. If you dislike someone because of their skin color or ethnicity, you’re probably racist.

Preferences are not racist. If you prefer to date people of your same ethnicity, but do not hate them because of their ethnicity, you are not racist.

a reply to: TinySickTears

That's how I see it. I've never thought to demand people date those they don't like in relationships.

By calling them racists over a preference, pressure is added against their freedom of choice as well as a stigma is attempted to be applied to them because of it.

a reply to: Woodcarver
That's what I thought. Apparently that is confusing to some. LoL

a reply to: tadaman

yeah well racist gets thrown out all the time.

originally posted by: MerkabaTribeEntity

Asian women look 18 years old until they hit their 30th birthday, then they seem to age 50 years almost overnight.

Shallow, I know. Lol

My Asian wife is 48 and looks about 30ish...

originally posted by: TinySickTears

yeah well racist gets thrown out all the time.

All the terms and memes we see today is a weak way to debate. I think people are unable today to actually debate anything and so they use one of the generic_01 labeling to put the person on defense instead of just actually debating each side. It's like if we talked and you disagree with me I then just call you a racist and now the debate is whether you are a racist or not, if you give in to it.

Do what you like.

Don't be surprised when your kids ask "mommy, what am I?"

It's the opposite of diversity.

Do humans need breeding papers now so we don't turn into a bunch of mutts?

..or is race racist now?

Jesus, who cares really?

originally posted by: Mandroid7

Do what you like.

see a guy you like?

just grab him in the biscuit

a reply to: TinySickTears

Haha..that's a classic, that reminds me of burger king bathrooms.

a reply to: Mandroid7



shock g was the #

a reply to: tadaman

well my wife is a maori and i know lots os maori white couples also a lot of maori-maori couples who just prefer maoris i think its who you prefer also i have had white girlfriends

I have been married to, and dated white women.

I am now married to a black woman and have dated other black women at one time.


I'm confused.

EDIT: forgot....I also dated a filipino girl.

originally posted by: MerkabaTribeEntity
a reply to: tadaman

I was always partial to Swedish females as a teenager, but I don't think that counts as a race.

I've found Asian females rather attractive over the years, but there's an issue there (aside from the fact that I'm in a long-term relationship, I'm not shopping about right now);

Asian women look 18 years old until they hit their 30th birthday, then they seem to age 50 years almost overnight.

Shallow, I know. Lol

Not in all cases but in many you are correct about the rapid aging of Asians and even Mexicans. The land has been farmed for hundreds if not thousands of years so the mineral and vitamin content is not all that good or it is just plain genetic.

BUT.. Women as a generalized statement do not age the same as men...

The Chinese have a formula that says take half the man's age and add 7 years for the perfect age of a wife. Man is 30 girl would be 15+7 = 22.. George Bush and Barbra Bush.. she always looked like his grandmother to me but so what by all accounts they were happy. Man is 60 woman 30+7 or 37 for a mate. Guess it keeps the guy out of the joys of his wife's menopause for in the old days he would be dead before her menopausal onset.. ? Flame the Chinese not me ! hahah

As far as preferring a certain race to be your mate.. As far as I am concerned it is the attraction and love shared that counts even though certain societies are rather cruel when it comes to dating or marrying outside of your race.. in that case change the society you are forced to live in .. There are always haters who are gonna hate, but true love is something that is a true blessing so everyone else can #$%^&*( if you and your mate can stand it.

I think the problem here is a confusion about what "racist" means. In reality, "racist" should mean someone who thinks a particular race is lacking some fundamental piece of humanity, or someone who feels hatred towards a particular race, not because of life experiences and observations, but simply for being different.
Here are two examples: If someone said "People of this particular race aren't actually human beings, they're pest animals like rats. We should just put them all down so we don't have to be bothered by them.", that's racism. If someone said "Anyone belonging to this particular race should be shot on sight so they don't contaminate my country with their disgusting genes", that's racism.
Now, if I would say "blacks are more likely to steal things", regardless of whether or not it's true, that's not racism, it's prejudice. Holding this belief would not necessarily mean I see black people as being less human, less evolved, less capable, etc as a race, nor would it necessarily mean I have some kind of hatred towards or dislike of black people. I could in fact hold this belief while holding no animosity or even any dislike whatsoever towards the black race. Here's an example of how this could be: Say you got a job in a retail establishment in an area populated mostly with black people. As is the nature of retail establishments, sometimes people steal things. As most of the customers are black, you occasionally witness black people stealing things - more so than you witness white people stealing things. Thus, you come to a conclusion that black people are more likely to steal things - not because you hate them or think they're less human, but because your life experiences have caused you to develop a prejudice. Perhaps you even have a negative opinion of your employer and approve of this behavior, and as a result you have a more favorable opinion of black people as a result of this prejudice. That may be a poor example of positive prejudice, but you can see the point I am trying to make. Prejudice is not necessarily a bad thing, it's simply a developed belief.
Now, there's a third word here we should cover: Preference. Preference is distinct from prejudice and racism. Preference could be the result of prejudice and/or racism, but it naturally has nothing to do with either. We all prefer things. It would be astronomically rare to find someone who enjoys ALL of a particular thing - someone who enjoys ALL food, someone who enjoys EVERY music genre, someone who enjoys EVERY tv show, etc etc.
This is especially true when it comes to other people. Take anyone, and there will be people they would prefer to be friends with and spend time with, and people they can't stand being around and would never willingly be friends with. They enjoy the natural scent of some people and find the body odor of others absolutely repulsive. There will be people they find physically attractive, and people they... simply don't. Personally, I find women with brown hair to be more attractive than women with blonde hair. That doesn't mean I hate women with blonde hair or think they're less human or want them to be exterminated like rats, I simply have a preference. I also am not attracted to black women, in the same way I'm not particularly attracted to women with blonde hair. Those particular traits simply don't appeal to me. I don't like olives, I don't like the "screamo" genre of music, I don't like hot climates, and I don't find black women attractive. There's nothing whatsoever wrong with any of that.
We ALL have preferences, ALL of us. Anyone who calls a preference "racist" is simply being dishonest and using accusations to further their own agendas.

originally posted by: DBCowboy
a reply to: tadaman

I think anyone who focuses on the color of ones skin as a determinant for anything is racist.

Replace "skin" with "physical attributes", and most of us would be guilty. It's a fine line.

a reply to: tadaman

Personally, I find all ethnicities / races of women attractive. I am an equal opportunity pimp. Black, white, latin, asian, indian, eastern european, italian, nordic, english, hawaiian, etc. Beautiful women are beautiful women in my book.

With that said, there is a huge difference between finding a woman you want to bang and one you want to be in a relationship with and this is where I think the topic gets a little muddy for a lot of people.

I think people should marry / date whoever they want, but at the same time you have to realize that regardless of our utopian ideals, there are significant differences between cultures and those differences may not make for a good relationship overall, no matter how much you may find someone attractive.

For example, I am a black guy. I am happily married to a black woman. The issues I'd have with say dating a white woman would be more so that she may not be able to really relate to me in regards to the struggles or things I may face being a black guy like a black woman would. Sure, we might like grabbing coffee, eating out, traveling, or doing similar things but I can't come home one day and be like "These god damn crackas at work..." And yes, EVERY BLACK PERSON has had a conversation in private that starts like that...

When dating outside of one's race you also have to be careful too because there is also a bit of stereotyping and other nuanced things going on. This is where people start to have criticisms of preferences if you will. For example, some black people who exclusive date white folks do so out of a hatred of themselves. You see similar issues in the Asian community as it is well know that many Asian women prefer white men (this is why you see so many nerdy tech white guys with Asian women, particularly out on the west coast).

On the flip side, I see some white guys who date black women as some sort of fantasy as well. There is a reason porn like ghetto gaggers is popular.

The bottom line for me though is date whoever you want, but be honest about why you are doing it.

originally posted by: network dude


Replace "skin" with "physical attributes", and most of us would be guilty. It's a fine line.

crazy

small tits, no ass and a deformity is where its at yo

a reply to: TinySickTears


There is no clear scientific definition for race. Its illusion. Believing in race by definition makes you a racist..

a reply to: Xtrozero

Respect! Every Asian lady I've met locally haven't aged too well lol

originally posted by: DBCowboy
a reply to: tadaman

If you are using skin color as a determinant for anything, you are a racist.


If you aren't going to look past the color or gender of a person for anything, then you really are a shallow and superficial person.

I just glanced over at the misses then looked at the rocking chair. I feel sexually attracted to my misses and not the rocking chair. Does that make me racist?