a reply to: GiulXainx
Interesting topic at play here, so why not use the imagination to work in and around areas of thought that are further questioning and resides in more
of a channel that deals with factors of control.
I mention factors of control because what occurs forward of the present moment in time is not a reality. The human condition, for reasons of keeping
safety of utmost concern, is wired to predict possible outcomes to possibly learn and adapt from. If factors of control are focused on at a higher
priority, then we may find that factors out of our control become less invasive and we can instead have a higher learning power by way of adversity.
What I am saying is, that so much effort to attempt prediction upon one self and possibly even others can take so much control of our thoughts, that
values of input can begin to lay the foundations of provided unneeded and often unwanted precedence of thought power... removing influence of
prediction, exercising the learning efforts of communication cues, and having a likely better prediction rate outcome as a result of better clues of
what is occurring in the present moment in time.
If I were in your shoes, and trust me I was certainly in your shoes and even remain in the same thought patterns you explain of, I would look for a
new angle to view human interaction upon. Years back I'd agree with you about the work clan resonating with your personality type... nowadays I'd
think my coworkers are making a concerted effort to adapt to the way the boss communicates more effectively. Humans are quite the tools of
adaptation, and their abilities to communicate better than others comes with the gifts of being able to meet a less say communicator half way for
reasons of cohesion.
By the time kids get around 5 years old, if properly socialized upon interacting with peers, the higher level of communication are then practiced.
Once one passes first grade they graduate onto second grade, right? Well the school of interaction is not learned at the same paces for what should
be clear and obvious reasons... to have a 1st grade level communicator mingled upon 5th grade level communicators is not an uncommon occurrence.
These type of conditions as an adult are typically bred into existence by parenting. 5 year old's don't know what they are learning... they are in
full on sponge mode. Internally, the socially adjusted 5 year old senses a hindered communication barrier, so they leave the hindered as be to better
learn their level of communication... to continue the adaptation processes naturally. If such scenarios of childhood had occurred in life, then would
it not be beneficial to put yourself into the present moment you exist in to possibly learn how to communicate better as you go about your
I mention all of this in such a long winded fashion because I sense that your work communication is discussed to be of the opinion that your coworkers
are magically similar to your personality, whereas the most likely scenarios is that your coworkers sense where your communication levels are at and
they pull back their skill level of communication to the levels at which allow yourself to operate most comfortably. It's likely just this simple,
and there is very valid reasoning for attempting to stay in the present moment.
The prefrontal lobes of the brain decide our plans of action while the amygdala controls the 'security of flight/fight/freeze system so to speak
(flight/fight/freeze). The human condition is designed to keep ourselves safe... often causing the brain to prioritize the functions of the amygdala
to be a higher priority than what occurs elsewhere. This factor causes unreal circumstances to hold a higher prevalence to our thought processing.
The trick of the trade is to learn to force the brain to prioritize the prefrontal lobes to be the commander in chief of actions taken. It's okay to
have thoughts of safety and concern, but if they are steering the ship then logic is not so fully able to operate to peak efficiency, huh?
Regardless of what I am saying, the amygdala dominant thinker will, without communicating the facts of coworker personality preferences prior, likely
assume that they magically fell into a group of coworkers that is just like them. All the while, subliminally the coworkers are more than likely able
to learn that who they work for and MUST communicate with operates by way of what the 'fear processing center' is predicting to be reality.
Prefrontal cortex exercises are in order here. The limbic system should be serving as a slave to the prefrontal cortex. When the limbic system takes
precedence to logic formulation the abilities to adapt human sensory systems further becomes hindered and or stalled.