a reply to: toysforadults
Since this is about Japan, a few things come to mind.
As a society, they still have this overbearing cultural expectation looming over each person, especially the males. To be super successful or be
branded a failure...in whatever field.
Housing in Japan is ridiculous. Mortgages that are passed on to your descendants in some cases. How's a young man supposed to ever get his own place
to bring up a family in this sort of environment?
Which leads back to the first point. Previously you could be a great engineer, putting together cars that would run for 200k miles, or building ships
that would criss cross the oceans, you could make beautiful, hand crafted swords, furniture...Practice bonsai, make awesome food....These days, you
need to make money. That's all that seems to matter, since housing is so extravagantly expensive. Many choose the job that pays, that gives them
nothing in terms of wellbeing or respect for their talents.
They grew up with absent fathers who worked 14 or 16 hour days in the office, then spent their last few waking hours getting drunk in some hostess bar
so they weren't crushed by the knowledge that their lives were pretty much pointless. They consumed, putting all their hopes and dreams into the new
gadget or the trip to the West for a vacation of collecting photos of places they were in too much of a rush to enjoy....
Now, there aren't the same opportunities to amass the wealth and spend it the way their fathers did. Faced with this, they choose the drug of tech and
porn. Working just enough to continue to escape each night in the best way they can, in whatever hovel they can afford.
They dropped out but their society is structured in such a way that they have no real freedom to drop out in another way, even the bosozoku gangs
seem to be pale imitations of those that came before them.
This depression is what is probably at the heart of them opting out of finding girlfriends. Until things get better, nothing will change.