posted on Sep, 30 2018 @ 12:07 PM
I know a lot of people who went to schools like Kav - I met them first year in college and the following years. Mostly from the Philly area but also
NJ, MD and DC area. Most all of them went on to be in fraternities, as did I, but there was a MAJOR difference in how the guys from public schools
acted vs the guys from the prep schools - it was glaringly obvious. When alone with one of the prep school guys, all it was was talking about the
other guys (talking trash usually, even about own brothers - supposedly closest friends) and just because you would listen to them and maybe nod, they
thought you were in agreement, when most of the time I was in disbelief and would most always be the "devils advocate" for the guy getting ragged
There was such a sense of superiority and constant bragging about their schooling that it was sickening, from sports to academics - none of which
would have ever held a candle to the public school I went to especially in sports and after a few semesters I realized the same with academics (many
were top in their class, 3.5gpa+) compared to a 2.5-2.7GPA at a public school and many times the public school kids knew volumes more than the prep
What was most disturbing, especially the first year of college was the attitude towards the girls in the dorm or school. My one close friend tried to
bed every single one of them while having a GF back in HS who was a senior (never told her though) and he never told the girls at college. And then
there was the bragging afterwards about the girls, which I never knew if it was true or not, I could never tell but I suspected it was all BS for the
most part. The lack of respect for the co-eds was blatant when they weren't around but when they were, my friend was a smooth talking, nice/bad guy
who seemed to know little tricks to get girls interested in them (usually or very often lies). This wasn't just my friend, it was many of the prep
school guys who I found out were completely two faced when it came to girls, and they definitely didn't understand the thing about not "kissing and
This was a complete opposite from what I grew up with. Having to go to school with about 50% girls in every class, we learned to respect them and
deal with them appropriately and not think of them simply as a sex object (may have helped having a sister too, many prep school kids were all boy
families or single child families).
Also the girls from all girl schools were probably the biggest party girls at school. They loved them some attention, no matter who it came from
(99/100 times guys). Many of them joined sororities as well, I'd say about same percentage as guys - maybe a 50/50 split between private/preo &
public school - and it was usually pretty easy to tell the prep schoolers out of the crowd, especially the freshmen and sophomores. Upperclassmen
seemed to have be a little more homogeneous, maybe attributes of each rubbed off on each other.
The one thing that was very prevalent was the drug and alcohol use from the prep schoolers. Where lots of public school kids may have had a party a
couple times a year, it seemed like a weekly thing, if not more with them - when in high school. This transferred over into college and it was real
easy to spot them first semester freshmen year, because they were the ones withe the worst FOMO and would go out every night. Sure some other kids
would go along on occasion, but not like every night for the first 30 days or anything.
IDK if this goes along with "white privilege" because there were minorities that went to these schools as well, but they were a small fraction of
I can attest to the temperament of many of the prep school kids when they were confronted about doing something wrong, being an @$$ or whatever, they
would be belligerent and want to fight - when they were clearly in the wrong. It was infuriating and many times there were fights that started and in
almost every case it was started by a kid who went to a prep school - though there were a couple where the origin was questionable, but the prepschool
kids seemed to think they should never have to apologize of back down and expected all their "bros" to back them up even when being a total doosh.
This isn't to say that kids from public schools did't get into fights or have problems, but for the small fraction of kids coming from prep schools,
there was a HUGE disproportion to the amount of headache caused by this group as compared to others. One might compare crime rates of poor minorities
and the BS rate of prep school kids at college as being similar as the per-capita population for each "group".