posted on Sep, 28 2018 @ 03:29 AM
a reply to: Aazadan
Gosh I totally understand your post but from the opposite angle. My ex and I hug all the time when greeting or leaving each other, we always have,
just natural affection with a soft kiss on the cheek.
Our son has grown up seeing love and affection between us, just not as a couple. We spent every Christmas and his birthdays together as a family, and
presents have always been from mum and dad, shared so there was never any 'mams present is better than dads...' kind of thing.
It helps that we've always lived walking distance away from each other as well.
That case you mentioned about the ER and screwing the father for medical bills sounds horrible. I can't understand why people use their kids a
weapons, it's really tragic. That's one thing I don't have to worry about in the UK due to the NHS, but even if I did we would have gone 'halves' with
such expenses same as we split all costs as parents, school uniform, school trips etc.
My ex is still joint account holder named on my bank account so she could just clean me out legally if she wanted to lol. I never took her off it
because when I die it's easy for her (and our son) to get my money without all the official bull# and waiting weeks. That's how much I trust her.
We are not unique though, a few friends who divorced are still good friends with each other. Maybe it's because we are in a tight knit community so
you really have to get over it when you're bumping into each other in town, at pubs, or the same parties. You really have to leave town if you don't
want to see your ex's here lol.