posted on Feb, 27 2005 @ 02:45 AM
Well different things get different people off, I too suffer from the too much free time syndrome, idle hands are the devils tool or whatever that
saying is. When I was a student then in periods of unemployment you eventually drift over to the dark side. Personally I think part of the problem is
that porn is not just accepted but almost glamourised these days.
I've been though most of the stages you were talking about, pictures to vids etc, and I've been in the game long enough to have seen most of the
wierd and wonderful (actually its mostly weird, and some disgusting) stuff that goes on. Everyone has their thing, I've been in contact with other
individuals like myself, to answer your question on how widespread? I would say it's a hell of a lot more widespread than anyone is willing to admit.
This isn't like Alcoholism or even other drug addicts. It's easier to admit you have a problem with something like Alcohol or cigarettes or whatever
you poison is, than pornography. Also you can go cold turkey from substances but how can you go cold turkey from porn? its in your head, you can still
recall those images, or if your like me and others, you have a bit of an overactive imagination. I've tried the cold turkey approach, doesn't work,
it just makes it worse in someways. You turn on the TV soft porn, newspaper its there, walking down the street and there are scantily clad women!
There are a few forums for this specific addiction, some of which I frequent. All agree that you can never really get rid of the addiction just keep
it under control. learn your triggers etc. I've been more or less keeping it under control. Personally my posion is usually erotic stories, generally
commercial porn doesn't do much for me, I prefer to see realistic women, pornstars are too enhanced and too perfect to look real. I like amateur
stuff but hey thats just me. I also like a little mystery, the full on up close and very personal stuff does nothing for me. Just give me a bit to
work with and my imagination will create the rest. I've come across people into all kinds of stuff, There was another poor guy who, similarly to me,
got off on pictures of clothed women . That's an insidious one because it's really hard to switch off your imagination. Shopping malls are a
nightmare in summer, all those lightly dressed women. Sometimes I think the muslims have the right idea with covering up women and banning alcohol
etc. I could on and on about some of the stuff people are into but I don't think it's really necessary to do that here.
Ideally you will throw away your computer, your TV, avoid any magazines and look at the ground when walking. But of course we haveto live in the real
world. I try to waste more time hanging around on forums like this and others that I go to helps cure the boredom to some extent, but sooner or later
you will wander, usually sooner. I've never lasted more than a month and I was just about crawling the walls by then. Generally I find that if i
allow myself a little bit each week then thats, enough of a vent to prevent pressure build up. I can keep it under control. Once you are aware of
what's happening you can step back from the brink and control it better. These days I can say download a little back and 'save it for later without
needing to getoff right there and then.
Interestingly I found that when I have a girl friend then I feel guilty about the porn like it's cheating and am able to stop and even delete my
collection if it goes well. Of course when the relationship ends I come crawling back like the pathetic creature that I am. But hey none of us is
perfect, we all have our weakness(es) just some of us acknowledge them and try to keep them at bay.
Feel free to email me offline if you want a more private discussion.