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Porn Addiction

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posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 12:49 AM
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Women control the porn industry, for if no women in porn, no men would watch it, well, straight men.

Also, what is porn? Some people have foot fetish, so a picture of a foot is porn. Or a armpit fetish, or nose fetish, you get my drift.




posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 02:01 AM
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Heres how it works people and I know this from experience! lol. Ok, the first time ever that yer jerkin it can be to absolutely nothing and it will the be best feeling ever so you keep doing it to nothing in the corner or somewhere where there is no porn needed. Next thing you know yer gettin the urge when you watch some hot celebrity on tv so you take a trip to the bathroom if your not alone or you wait until night to try and catch the program again for your viewing pleasure. Next thing you know that stuff just isnt good enough anymore and your searching for real stuff and you rarely find it but when you do its good enough for a couple of months or so probably less. Then you search out for more and if you have the internet it makes it easier and you learn that its the best way ever to get your daily dose. You sort of get tired of just pictures if your on dial up and try to download short clips and that satifisfies your fantasies even further depending on what your watching. Usually any clip will outdo a picture even if you have to watch it 20 times to get the job done. This problem gets worse if you discover hispeed internet because you will never look at just pictures again unless its of a celebrity and you end up jerkin every moment you can because its only a few clicks and seconds away to happiness. But its not the porn that is addicting its the orgasm all the way. Its like smoking pot! You smoke the pot just for the drug that is involved in it and it gets you high and your good for that whole moment of being stoned. The more you smoke the more you need to get high which shockingly doesnt happen with me but you get the point. With porn you need more to get to the same great orgasm and usually it has to be of better quality than the last time. After a while with the short clips you find that you have a certain liking to certain fantasies played out in the movies and you look for those type of movies specifically so that you can get your fix. Some people have some weird ass sick fantasies but they'll go the furthest they can to fulfill their sex dreams even if it involves ruining lives. I myself dont have any problems associated with looking at porn but I am certainly addicted to the orgasms. Its the porn that I need to get a good orgasm but even then the orgasm can suck and be short lived and I'll end up being dissapointed and I guess a bit guilty. Yup thats pretty much how it works. It can ruin things for some but it is not always the case. If I had to choose though I would have porn banned and destroyed from the world cause I would much rather be with a real person than my hand.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 07:20 AM
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me too man, but the thing with the porn is that it is so readily available all the time!!! one thing is for sure the more you watch the less and less attractive real life women are.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 07:47 AM
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Originally posted by intrepid
Porn? I have no problem with that. Addiction? Anything that a person can't live without isn't healthy. Coffee, drugs, booze, smokes, whatever. Addiction is not a good thing.


Quite true. We are so often in persuit of the obviously dangerous that we overlook those which don't seem to have any direct problems.

First, you have to draw the line between abuse and addiction. Abuse is where you start using more of a product than you should (others will notice and often tell you).....or more indirectly, you start increasing your limit of what you can toloerate. A couple hundred years back, it used to be thrilling for a man to see a woman's ankles. Now, most guys (other thna someone with a fetish) won't even notice that a girl has ankles.

A test for visual porn:
How many of you remember when you switched from pictures to videos?
Regular Porn vids to Hardcore?
Reg. Prn or Hardcore to beastiality/ child/ other sick and disgusting things that just shouldn't be on the market?
If there is an increase, you show signs of abuse.

Remember, while not all guys are serial killers, all male serial killers that have been studied have started with porn, often at a young age.

The biggest danger in porn: You lose your sensitivity. Most guys today don't care about ankles because they are not sensitive to the sight of them. One of my guy friends is not sensitive to the sight of breasts because where he lives, women go around topless all summer. He admits the problem is over exposure.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 07:53 AM
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Originally posted by jlc163

A test for visual porn:
How many of you remember when you switched from pictures to videos?
Regular Porn vids to Hardcore?
Reg. Prn or Hardcore to beastiality/ child/ other sick and disgusting things that just shouldn't be on the market?
If there is an increase, you show signs of abuse.


I never switched to videos. I always look at pictures..from like when I was I can't remember 10, 11...till now..25

While I am not abusing, I feel addicted, maybe I am abusing.


Remember, while not all guys are serial killers, all male serial killers that have been studied have started with porn, often at a young age.


You got any sources on that, that's wicked scary!!



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 08:17 AM
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It's not only the quality....it can be the quantity......do you look at more porn now than you used to?

Sure do.
Dr. James Dobson: Ted Bundy

Dr. Dobson was on a panel that was trying to find out more about the effect of pornography....it was a Government pannel. He may be rediculously religous, but he is a trained psychiatrist.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 08:33 AM
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I've said this before and got rather flamed. There is no innocent porn...none! Those that make the "innocent" porn also make the other...by supporting one, you support the other, the side everyone doesn't to think they are supporting...the rapes, drugged girls, abused woman, abductions and yes, the child porn....people don't want to think they are supporting such things so they justify by saying a little innocent porn is no big deal....justify all you want, tell me how wrong I am all you want, but it will not change the facts! No, I not a cold, puritan type. Yes, I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse which did involve pictures, but, Just for the record so you don't think that's where I am coming from, I enjoy most things that all men and woman do, and then some. Hubby and I very experimental and I see nothing wrong with anything two consenting adults do in private that hurts no one! I just hate to see people thinking they are doing nothing but having a bit of "innocent" fun when it's lie. Yes, many girls are doing it for fun, the money, kicks.....but there are just as many that the abducted and drugged.......and again, by supporting one, you support the other. By the way the usual view of "porn" is pictures of strategic areas while engaged in sex with all in full view. Look at the guy above that said "regular" woman no longer look good to him....how truly sad that is. Another problem is that porn gives young men a very warped view of what real sex is like, with a regular female....most women, much less girls....are going to act the way they do in pornography
Now, if anyone wishes to flame, don't bother cause I'm not coming into this thread again.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 11:31 AM
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LadyV, I started this thread and started it with honesty. I wish no one would have flamed you and am sorry they did. Being open and honest like you have is the only way to understand the truth. And when talking about something as personal to all of us as this it's important we respect people when they give their views-we don't always know what kinds of experiences people have been through.

This 'innocent porn' LadyV refers too is also sybolic of the way people have been talking in this thread. Many people have said that it's 'ok' and it's not the porn that's addictive. Many people have made many interesting points that all ring home. However I feel many people are denying the fact porn is addictive and does deconstruct positive cross-sexual relationships.

No one has yet addressed questions one and two. What percentage of the population really suffers from porn addiction. We have all responded to question three and I think ComputerNerd is not in denial and gave us all something to think about. Porn Addiction must be bigger than I initially thought after reading so many posts that are not in 'defense' of porn but in 'denial' of it's social consequences and addictive nature.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 12:23 PM
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Very true jlc163, when I was younger all we had was the Sears catalogue and Sports Illustrated Swimsuit edition.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 12:24 PM
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Originally posted by intrepid
Very true jlc163, when I was younger all we had was the Sears catalogue and Sports Illustrated Swimsuit edition.


Dude, that's where I was...Sears, J.C. Penny...now look where I am...I am glad I recognize a problem so young (25) so I can stop it...



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 12:57 PM
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The best porn runs in my imagination, in front of my minds eye. Long ago I tried hardcore-videos for awhile but I find nearly all of them completely mediocre, boring, stereotype. Never seen a movie that even came close to the ones in front of my minds eye. I suspect that by relying too much on videos/pics, people loose touch with their imagination, with their own power to produce emotion and fantasy. Ive even heard someone say "naw...you cant imagine stuff like that...I prefer the video". Just think of it: In your imagination you can do anything you want and have others do anything you want, at any place you want, in any way you want. What could beat that? So...is "mind porn" addictive then? Only if you have no other way in life to feel good. If thats the only way you have to feel good, then it can become addictive. In order to release the addiction a bit, one would have to come up with other ways to feel good.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 03:14 PM
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That's a good statement. I think for me I've been realizing a lot of addictions I have now that I'm 25, like alchohol and cigarettes since I was 16...I stopped smoking pot after smoking every day from 16 to 22...So I am sure I can stop these too.

I am on a health kick and now that I am getting physically healthier I am moving into the realm of the mind and sexuality and I think porn is an addiction and I think you are exactly right, imagination is the best porn...It's not even porn it's just fantasy you've created and can live out in your own mind un assisted from other visualizations.

However both are false, does this make them the same. Can someone be addicted imagining naked ladies or men too?



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 07:25 PM
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The only thing keeping me from quitting the porn is having nothing else to do all day. I dont currently have a job or go to school so when Im all alone at home Im there at the PC. When I hear about porn addiction on the news or whatever it always seems like its just a guy who likes to "look" at porn and nothing else. Is there anybody that truly just looks at porn for the porn or is there no doubt whatsoever that they are looking at it to jerk to it?

BTW when Im alone Im not jerkin the whole time Im just saying it gives me the opportunity to do it and then play a game or something. lol this thread is gettin way personal.

[edit on 26-2-2005 by CmptrN3rd5]



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 07:31 PM
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Dude, it was way personal on page one, get with the program....

If you are just lookin to look and not even jerkin, what are you doing?? Studying it? I think, and here we go..the first one to state it


70% of men are addicted to porn


whaddya think



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 09:37 PM
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Obviously I'm a woman... I have only seen one porno and it cracked me up. I did nothing to turn me on. It was about some lady that could turn into a panther, she goes into this bar (in human form) starts sprawling around on the floor and all the men in the bar make a big circle and start wanking. Then they all start splooging on her LMAO. I laughed so hard. I mean what turns you on about 15 strangers wanking on you in a circle and getting baby batter all over your hair and making your mascara run?

It does nothing for me.



posted on Feb, 26 2005 @ 09:53 PM
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That just sounds sick and disgusting...who wants to see 15 other poles than your own. Come on that's pewtrid..however you spell it.



posted on Feb, 27 2005 @ 12:21 AM
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Yeah c*m shots dont really get me off nor do BJ's for that matter. Its usually the sex part that I get off to most. And I cant stand doggystyle ever! Ooh and definitely not anal!



posted on Feb, 27 2005 @ 12:39 AM
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That was a little too descriptive for me. Let's keep this thread more academically focused and not too raunchy. What do people think about my statement that 70% of males are addicted to porn?



posted on Feb, 27 2005 @ 02:45 AM
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Well different things get different people off, I too suffer from the too much free time syndrome, idle hands are the devils tool or whatever that saying is. When I was a student then in periods of unemployment you eventually drift over to the dark side. Personally I think part of the problem is that porn is not just accepted but almost glamourised these days.

I've been though most of the stages you were talking about, pictures to vids etc, and I've been in the game long enough to have seen most of the wierd and wonderful (actually its mostly weird, and some disgusting) stuff that goes on. Everyone has their thing, I've been in contact with other individuals like myself, to answer your question on how widespread? I would say it's a hell of a lot more widespread than anyone is willing to admit. This isn't like Alcoholism or even other drug addicts. It's easier to admit you have a problem with something like Alcohol or cigarettes or whatever you poison is, than pornography. Also you can go cold turkey from substances but how can you go cold turkey from porn? its in your head, you can still recall those images, or if your like me and others, you have a bit of an overactive imagination. I've tried the cold turkey approach, doesn't work, it just makes it worse in someways. You turn on the TV soft porn, newspaper its there, walking down the street and there are scantily clad women! There are a few forums for this specific addiction, some of which I frequent. All agree that you can never really get rid of the addiction just keep it under control. learn your triggers etc. I've been more or less keeping it under control. Personally my posion is usually erotic stories, generally commercial porn doesn't do much for me, I prefer to see realistic women, pornstars are too enhanced and too perfect to look real. I like amateur stuff but hey thats just me. I also like a little mystery, the full on up close and very personal stuff does nothing for me. Just give me a bit to work with and my imagination will create the rest. I've come across people into all kinds of stuff, There was another poor guy who, similarly to me, got off on pictures of clothed women . That's an insidious one because it's really hard to switch off your imagination. Shopping malls are a nightmare in summer, all those lightly dressed women. Sometimes I think the muslims have the right idea with covering up women and banning alcohol etc. I could on and on about some of the stuff people are into but I don't think it's really necessary to do that here.

Ideally you will throw away your computer, your TV, avoid any magazines and look at the ground when walking. But of course we haveto live in the real world. I try to waste more time hanging around on forums like this and others that I go to helps cure the boredom to some extent, but sooner or later you will wander, usually sooner. I've never lasted more than a month and I was just about crawling the walls by then. Generally I find that if i allow myself a little bit each week then thats, enough of a vent to prevent pressure build up. I can keep it under control. Once you are aware of what's happening you can step back from the brink and control it better. These days I can say download a little back and 'save it for later without needing to getoff right there and then.

Interestingly I found that when I have a girl friend then I feel guilty about the porn like it's cheating and am able to stop and even delete my collection if it goes well. Of course when the relationship ends I come crawling back like the pathetic creature that I am. But hey none of us is perfect, we all have our weakness(es) just some of us acknowledge them and try to keep them at bay.

Feel free to email me offline if you want a more private discussion.



posted on Feb, 27 2005 @ 03:05 AM
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Originally posted by Pilate
Interestingly I found that when I have a girl friend then I feel guilty about the porn like it's cheating and am able to stop and even delete my collection if it goes well. Of course when the relationship ends I come crawling back like the pathetic creature that I am. But hey none of us is perfect, we all have our weakness(es) just some of us acknowledge them and try to keep them at bay.



So do you think if one is not able to quit then it is actualy effecting their cross-sexual relatinoships.... Guilt can be a terrible weapon against the psyche can it not?



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