Porn Addiction

Why is porn so addictive?

If you agree that it is addictive than can you tell me:

(1) What percent of the male population is addicted to por?

(2) What percent of the female population is addicted to porn?

(3) Do our porn addictions affect teh way we have relationships with the same or opposite sex?

my exhubby is a porn addict. He wanted sex alllllll day long everyday. He cheated on me and wanks off at work all the time. He wanks every chance he gets, in the car, at work, in a closet at home. LOL it never stopped. I have no idea how he gets away with it at work.

I'm not so sure if it's an addiction to porn or sex or both. I don't feel like porn was an issue in our relationship. But I'm sure it does cause plenty of relationship problems. Personally I do not care for porn at all.

I think porn is addictive to males, due to the fact that the actors/actresses are playing out fantasies that are attractive to males( multiple partners, flawless, beautiful women, etc).

I just wonder if a porn actor can have a normal relationship with a woman.

For one and two, I suspect it would depend on your definition. Some might view erotic novels to be porn, to others, paintings of nudes are porn.

I've always found it curious that people deem it perfectly fine for children to look at nudes, as long as the painting is a few hundred years old. The same painting done today would be labelled "pornographic".

If we include the novels I mentioned, then I'd say men and women are about equal in their affinity for porn. "Addicted" is a pretty harsh term though, and would imply they couldn't get along without it. I doubt that's the case with the majority.

As to the third question, perhaps it somewhat shapes it, but I think we usually can distinguish between fantasy and reality here. I mean, in fantasy land, I'd love to have a foursome with 3 gals, but in the real world, can you imagine the stress of followup with those 3? You'd call one, they'd get jealous, etc.....issues, issues, issues......

Or porn models, can they have relationships really fulfililng with men. But that's a whole different thread. This one focuses on the audience. The addicted.

I'd say I am addicted to porn. I can find ways to wank anywhere. It's like the beast from within has to come out and once he's gone you're settled...until the next time.

I have to say that the computer is the fang of the serpant and her venom is the lightning quick delivery of images ready for the feasting...

What percent do you think of men are like me?

Originally posted by Gazrok
For one and two, I suspect it would depend on your definition. Some might view erotic novels to be porn, to others, paintings of nudes are porn.

I've always found it curious that people deem it perfectly fine for children to look at nudes, as long as the painting is a few hundred years old. The same painting done today would be labelled "pornographic".

If we include the novels I mentioned, then I'd say men and women are about equal in their affinity for porn. "Addicted" is a pretty harsh term though, and would imply they couldn't get along without it. I doubt that's the case with the majority.

As to the third question, perhaps it somewhat shapes it, but I think we usually can distinguish between fantasy and reality here. I mean, in fantasy land, I'd love to have a foursome with 3 gals, but in the real world, can you imagine the stress of followup with those 3?

You'd call one, they'd get jealous, etc.....issues, issues, issues......

good point in your last paragraph!!!

i agree...

Originally posted by MauiStacey
my exhubby is a porn addict. He wanted sex alllllll day long everyday. He cheated on me and wanks off at work all the time. He wanks every chance he gets, in the car, at work, in a closet at home. LOL it never stopped. I have no idea how he gets away with it at work.

When a man wants to wank, he can always find a way!

The feeling of orgasm can become an addiction stronger than any other drug because of it's short lived nature, thus a man must wank and a woman must fiddle whenever the urge arises.

Peace

Porn has been a part of history of man for thousands of years.

Looking at porn ,to me is a way of life to those who chose to do so.
If thats all it is , just looking, then i have no problem with it.

Consenting adult porn is OK, anything else is wrong and sick. ie child porn.

Porn is going to be around for a long time to come. Male or female, we have all looked at porn some time or other. Acting out scenes we have seen is entirely up to the individuals concerned. If they are happy and consenting, then there should be no problem.

When a man wants to wank, he can always find a way!

The feeling of orgasm can become an addiction stronger than any other drug because of it's short lived nature, thus a man must wank and a woman must fiddle whenever the urge arises.

That's true..but totally different. One could have fantasies about their partner and wank of or one could look at porn and wank off. One could just be enjoyable and the other addictive or both enjoyable only or addictive only. People are very different.

Can we come up with a percentage of men and women that are addicted to porn? And does it actually affect their relationships between eachother.

The response that we should be able to tell the difference between fantasy and reality is valid, but there is a grey area between the two that should be explored.

Originally posted by Bikereddie If they are happy and consenting, then there should be no problem.

Of course any issue between two people should be one of consent right.

A man looking at porn and wanking off. Is it a one person issue. Can be and can be not. If for example you have a girlfriend who hates their men looking at porn, are the men wanking to porn with mutual consent? No.

Deeper is the more feminine theory that the wanking to porn addictively by men leads to the downgrading of female status within society. Which could in turn be a factor in answering question number three, does it in face change the way the opposite sexes relate to eachother.

It's interesting that this thread came up. I knew someone that was addicted to pornography, and nearly destroyed his relationship of two years because of it. Sex became meaningless, while watching pornography was his only way of enjoyment. This was about two years ago. Anyways, I believe that pornography can become a dangerous addiction, but it's really up to the individual how to control their own actions.

Originally posted by IKnowNothing
It's interesting that this thread came up.

I started another thread about how social problems are just mere patterns of the problems between 2 people...

www.abovetopsecret.com...

I want to first explore the problems between the sexes and question Porn Addiction as a factor among many that create disturbances in cross-sexual relationships.

I hope through this thread we can all come to greater understanding and not think it too tabboo to talk about.

I dont think porn is an addiction...

Men mostly are very visual people so they would rather see things than act them out unlike woman who would rather read a book.. ala romance novels than look at pictures...

so I dont think there is a porn fixation its just catering to ones needs...

and no i dont look at porn much i am just repeating something i heard a while ago on TLC or something...

Pornography is not addictive. However is it paraphernalia for that which is.

The chemicals released during orgasm (internally, that is), endorphins known as opioid peptides, are structurally identical to herion. Many activities release the body's natural opiates (enkephalins and beta-endorphins), sex, physical exertion, even watching TV!

It is not a true addiction to porn that is being experienced, it is simply positive reinforcement, Neuro Associative Conditioning. By subconsciously associating the rush of opioids we get with the pornongraphy, we trigger a conditioned response. Our brain tells us, "I dig how porn makes me feel..."

Just ask Pavlov...

Emmett I totally agree with you. I think you are coming at it from the right perspective.

I don't like to look at porn, but I do. I can't wait till that moment of Bang and then I can stop and close all the little Internet Explorer Windows. So I have some questions.

If I can quit looking at porn I will still have an addiction according to what you have said.

I can only quit the addiction if I quit the addiction. Quitting the addiction at the same time quitting porn would be the ideal route.

What do you think people substitute porn with when they quit porn but don't quit the addiction? Like you said many things make the chemical. Physical exertion, Watching TV, Orgasms.

That is kinda off topic though. Let's stick to the percentages and effects on cross-sexual relationships from porn addiction. Thank you for clarifying the addiction is not so much the images but the reaction from their interaction with the mind and manipulation of the body.

Does this addiction, to porn or the chemicals it helps to release effect the relationships between men and women who are addicted, and of men and women what percentages are addicted??

I don't like to look at porn, but I do. I can't wait till that moment of Bang and then I can stop and close all the little Internet Explorer Windows. So I have some questions.

So why open porn to look at if you dont like to look at porn

Seems to me it's like you are trying to convince your self that in your mind its ok to look at porn. It's just that you need some explanation from others that it can or cannot be right.

How old are you? can you make your own mind up as to what you view?

Somtimes that think just jumps up and slaps you in the face!!!
There is not much choice but to slap it back!!

Relationship wise, its all in the mind. I look at porn, and honestly every guy i know has thought about it at one point or another. But it doesn't effect the relationship with my girlfriend. Hell she looks at it with me. Its part of sexuality. When she is not there, porn is enjoyable. When she is there, porn is still enjoyable, but instead of pulling the trigger myself she pulls it 10 times better!! (I know, too much information)

Really it depends on the person and how they handle it. It could be dangerous to a relationship if the persons involved have a different perspective of sexuality.

My ex husband used the excuse of PORN ADDICTION as to why he constantly cheated and lied to me about it.
It was ODD though his ferral reaction to my suggestions that we watch a dirty movie, or if I showed any interest in seeing a Hustler magazine. He called me names and tossed out ANYTHING in my nighty drawer he deemed pornographic, claiming "no wife of HIS was gunna be a slut"
I did not think attempting to be sexy for my husband was in any way being a slut, but this is a point we differed on greatly.
I mean heck......we GOT divorced......even after 8 years of marriage. The divorce was brought on by me, once I discoverd his cheating nature. It IS considered an ADDICTION according to him and his currant therapist......I mean seriously, during the 8 years we were married he had 72 affairs he could count.

At home....he was a prude beyond prudes! But I learned AFTER the divorce he was a loose and kwazy man at work, I guess he could not bring these 2 sides of himself together. He was just not a WHOLE man....he was fractured into various PARTS.
He is remarried now, and his currant wife has him seeing a therapist weekly for his so called PORN ADDICTION, and his many other issues....blah blah blah......I just hope she keeps him.

Personally, I am not addicted to porn, but I do not mind the occasional RISE out of graphic material. I think sensuality is a healthy part of human nature. To each his own I guess.

Is Porn addictive?

Personally I don't think it is, but then again I know many guys who cannot go thru the day without checking out some xxx site, so in a way it can be seen as an addiction, however I doubt any of my friends would go thru withdrawal or any major side effects if they're unable to log on to a pc for the day.

men like visual stimulation that porn offers, personally I rather use my imagination and I find reading erotica more appealing than watching a porn flick.

Porn addiction seems to be an excuse as RiverGoddess suggested, for people unwilling to deal with real issues, their sexuality and being honest with themselves. They use it as a crutch to avoid addressing what is really bothering them, prefering fantasy to reality.