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Why do beautiful woman date total jerks?

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posted on Sep, 11 2018 @ 06:05 PM
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a reply to: argentus

Not too sappy. Not even close - love that




posted on Sep, 11 2018 @ 09:02 PM
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Hot chicks dig talented musicians, not that I would know anything about that.




posted on Sep, 11 2018 @ 09:39 PM
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a reply to: Wide-Eyes

I always associate Alpha with the outgoing A type personality.

I'm more of an intellectual introvert. Strong mind and determined. The women I have been with happen to like those traits.



posted on Sep, 11 2018 @ 10:51 PM
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a reply to: ZIPMATT

Word. But you want a woman that takes care of herself, who works on her appearance but you sound unwilling to do the same. You deserve a reclusive cat lady as befuddled as you as to why there's no hotty who wants you. If you you build it, they will come. Chicks dig a driven man with a goal



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 12:31 AM
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a reply to: Isurrender73




Strong mind and determined. 


Precisely my point. We all have our own strengths. Self belief and passion is attractive.



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 07:47 AM
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are they still doing it? it has been ages since we discussed this. too bad if they still go on like that. maybe it is something we cant do anything about.



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 07:48 AM
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Another one of these threads.

"Why do all women everywhere, every single one of them, in every country on earth, even ghost ladies, date a-holes?"

The scientrific answer is. They don't all necessarily like a-holes. They like confidence and good sex. If it is the a-holes who provide such. Oh well, so be it.

Get confident and read a book on the female orgasm. Or watch porn, develop unrealistic expectations, and be sad.

The choice is always yours.
edit on 12-9-2018 by karmicecstasy because: Good sex negates all personality flaws, it is a scientrific fact!



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 10:53 AM
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Genetics. Most jerks are usually aggressive, maybe strong. but people tend to ignore things like pheromones and biology these days.

Remember the goal of all animals and sex, humans included, is to create strong offspring.
Women are drawn to jerks because their spider senses tingle to their potentially good genetics and the guys ability to provide and protect.
They might be a jerk but if they can bash a robbers head in then awesome!!!

It's simply nature over riding nurture.

Man wish I could find this excellent documentary that I once saw on Australia's ABC network.
It showed various species of female animals, and the things they do for breeding.
(Remember sex is to procreate, the pleasure is just a trap.)
What made this documentary unique though, was after showing female animal behaviors, from spiders to birds and everything in between, the show then compared human females and their behavior to those animals.

Basically showing human females don't act much different to our animal neighbors. Hell it literally stated that females of any species are more promiscuous than the males.
(There's a reason some bugs snap off their tool to prevent others having fun)
It's all about the breeding.

It was as informative as it was hilarious, and everything in it was based on actual science anyone could look up.
Sadly you'll never see such a show on TV again, because it would trigger the hell out of people.

Just wish I could remember the name. Saw it some time during the 90's I think.

Man I wish people would stop ignoring their biology, or learn about it, instead of basing everything purely on their 'feels'.

How different a world we'd live in if they did hey?

Once the baby itch goes away, some of these women wake up to themselves and look for that partner who they would of normally friend zoned.
Been through it myself.

So many women who zoned me when I was younger, now always hit me up with the whole "I should of given you a chance" now we're getting into our 40's.
I'm like, yeah well that ship sailed long ago. You have fun with your 5 kids to 6 different jerks way back then when you decided to let biology override your brain. Best of luck!

edit on 12-9-2018 by AtomicKangaroo because: added stuff and typos



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 11:12 AM
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This has turned into an interesting discussion....with no help from me.
OP...there is actually some very good advice for you in these posts.

I hope you eventually meet someone with whom you're compatible.
Seriously,...try to first find a woman you enjoy spending time with...someone you first can develop a sincere friendship with.
Then, with time, your relationship can grow deeper and richer into something long-term and long lasting, based upon mutual respect and genuine sharing and understanding.

If she happens to have large pendulous breasts...all the better...but it doesn't necessarily have be a relationship killer if she doesn't.
Breast augmentation has become surprisingly affordable.



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 08:02 PM
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a reply to: IAMTAT

is there an operation to fix your personality?

if so, get it, posthaste
edit on 12-9-2018 by fiverx313 because: (no reason given)



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 08:06 PM
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originally posted by: fiverx313
a reply to: IAMTAT

is there an operation to fix your personality?

if so, get it, posthaste


I like my personality.
You should think about getting one.



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 08:08 PM
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a reply to: JourneymanWelder

I must be a jerk.



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 08:18 PM
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I logged in for the first time in years to post an old mans wisdom. Women do not want jerks. They want a strong man. An example you may find useful; dont
ask where you want to go eat, at least not at first. She will say “where do you want to go” and youll say where do you want to go. That is perceived as weak. Pick her up and say Im taking you to dinner. Drive her to a nice place. Of course, let her order first and whatever she wants. At dinner be polite and authoritive with staff ( you are paying and in control ). Dont be a pussy. This may seem like an asshole but it isnt, you are just controlling the arena. Women want a man that is in control ( be polite ). As a father, this is father approved of the way a man can be in control without being a dickhead. Seriously, be a man to gain a womans favor and that means being assertive while showing consideration. Confidence wins the battle. Good luck and happy hunting.



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 08:30 PM
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originally posted by: JourneymanWelder
Im sorry I wont do it I wont become a total jerk just so I can have a girlfriend. Time and time again women will always date the bad boy over the nice guy that has his life together and actually has a career. Why? you cant change the player. you cant fix him and make him a good boy. And nothing needs changing on the nice guy... I just dont get it. I guess Im doomed to be alone because Im too damn nice.

Good grief,what are you, 12 years old? Even then this would be embarrassing and pathetic, but coming from an adult it's just.... wow.
I hate to inform you, but everything you just said is inaccurate, cliched, moronic BS. If you cant get a girlfriend, then you need to look at yourself. There's obviously a reason, and that reason certainly isn't because you're nice. I know a ton of great guys who have had zero trouble attracting women.
Because the whole cliche of "women wont date nice guys" is a lie that people tell themselves when they're either ignorant of the REAL reason they cant get a date, or they are just oblivious to it. It's a pathetic excuse and a crutch.
Dont blame the female gender for your problems. Look at yourself.
If no women want to date you, then what's more likely? That there is something wrong with every woman, or there is something wrong with you? It's really not hard to figure out the answer...

(Andbif I had to guess the real reasons, they would definitely include things such as: self-pitying, blames others for own problems and inadequacies, no accountability or self-criticism, makes excuses, etc etc)



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 08:30 PM
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originally posted by: JourneymanWelder
Im sorry I wont do it I wont become a total jerk just so I can have a girlfriend. Time and time again women will always date the bad boy over the nice guy that has his life together and actually has a career. Why? you cant change the player. you cant fix him and make him a good boy. And nothing needs changing on the nice guy... I just dont get it. I guess Im doomed to be alone because Im too damn nice.

Good grief,what are you, 12 years old? Even then this would be embarrassing and pathetic, but coming from an adult it's just.... wow.
I hate to inform you, but everything you just said is inaccurate, cliched, moronic BS. If you cant get a girlfriend, then you need to look at yourself. There's obviously a reason, and that reason certainly isn't because you're nice. I know a ton of great guys who have had zero trouble attracting women.
Because the whole cliche of "women wont date nice guys" is a lie that people tell themselves when they're either ignorant of the REAL reason they cant get a date, or they are just oblivious to it. It's a pathetic excuse and a crutch.
Dont blame the female gender for your problems. Look at yourself.
If no women want to date you, then what's more likely? That there is something wrong with every woman, or there is something wrong with you? It's really not hard to figure out the answer...

(Andbif I had to guess the real reasons, they would definitely include things such as: self-pitying, blames others for own problems and inadequacies, no accountability or self-criticism, makes excuses, etc etc)



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 08:43 PM
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a reply to: Windycity

Brilliant post. Whomever your with, must be lucky, because you really seem to understand most women. (can't say all, because lets face it, some of us are just bat@F*% crazy.

OP, I married the bad boy, in my first go around, and looking back, it was because I thought he was most of the Windy described. But he was the extreme, to the point of abusive.
I met my current husband, and he is a "nice guy". Most of my friends love him, and concider him a "brother". He listens to me. He isn't afraid to politely tell me when I'm acting "crazy". But he always puts my basic needs first. Always.

I don't know how old you are.

But I will say, in many women's cases, yes, they go for the bad boys. When we are young. I was 18. We do grow up and change. We realize what we really want when we get a bit older, and wiser.
Kind of like some men, whom only date "CRAZY" women. God knows my oldest is one. I'm just hoping he doesn't get stabbed before he realizes this is not a good thing. LOL



posted on Sep, 12 2018 @ 10:31 PM
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a reply to: chiefsmom

She is not as lucky as I. If the OP happens to still be reading let me exemplify. You are at dinner with your date at a restaurant you have both visited. She says dont they usually bring a basket of rolls? You say yeah I think so, maybe with dinner. Then the waiter drops off water and she mentions the rolls again, after he left. Then comes dinner and you say I guess we dont get rolls here. Weakness. Or the mans way. She asks about the rolls and you say yes they do and change the subject. Tell her you like her new hair color. It is edgy but classy, looks great on her. And when the water arrives you say can we get a basket of rolls please. The waiter said you should have had them by now ill get them right out. When the rolls arrive with an appology you say no worries buddy, they smell great. Slide the basket to your date with a smile. Leave a generous tip. There are ways to be assertive without being an asshole. That is what women want. After many dates and many years you can just be a “nice guy” but to win her heart you have to be strong and considerate.



posted on Sep, 13 2018 @ 09:09 AM
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originally posted by: Autorico
Go for a t-shirt and jeans lady, stop putting the bar so high.

I've always considered myself lucky in a way that I never had much of a high bar to begin with; it can be a blessing. If I found a woman who uses the same amount of weed and psychedelics as I do, I'd feel like I just hit a 21 in blackjack, whereas most straight-edge, conventional guys would not even bother with her, leaving the opportunity wide open for me.



posted on Sep, 13 2018 @ 10:01 AM
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AND why do men insist on dating superficial snobs?

See I can play this game too....



posted on Sep, 13 2018 @ 10:16 AM
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originally posted by: mblahnikluver
AND why do men insist on dating superficial snobs?

See I can play this game too....

There is a place for superficial snobs as you put it.
Only date them for sex though, it's an arrangement, almost prostitution in a sense, they use you for money and you use them for sex.
I've been happy with that many times in my life, just remember it is an unspoken deal and you are good to go.
edit on 13-9-2018 by CornishCeltGuy because: stupid auto correct







 
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