A few days ago I was browsing Netflix for some decent stand-up and saw Iliza Shlesinger's special called "Elder Millennial". Thought it might be
decent seeing as I'm a millennial myself, but I only made it about 15 minutes in before I had to stop. Now she isn't a bad comedian, not the best but
has some pretty good jokes. What turned me off was when she started talking about rejection and how it's a mans job to hit on the women. I actually
agree with her to some extent, but the first reason she gives for why men should do it was her only rational argument in my opinion. The first
argument she gives is that women put way more effort into looking good so it should be more incumbent on the man to act first, which I agree with for
the most part.
She then goes into how women are treated unequally by society, so when they try to be alpha and hit on a guy it hurts them far more than a guy being
rejected. She says that women are more emotionally fragile than men and cannot handle rejection as well because men are better at suppressing their
emotions. Rejection hurts women on a very deep level she says because in some way it means their eggs were rejected. Before I explain why these
arguments are extremely weak I want to point out I very much dislike groups such as MGTOW which believe that women are the cause of all problems and
it's better to just live without them, but nor am I a fan of feminist ideologies which try to paint men as the problem to everything.
The first misconception here is that men don't feel as many emotions and are better at handling rejection. It may be true to some extent for some guys
but men are still perfectly capable of feeling deep emotions, just because they may not show it all the time doesn't mean they don't feel it. Take
Elliot Rodger's for example, he flatly stated on video that his plan to indiscriminately kill people was spurred on by the intense pain and loneliness
he felt due to constant rejection by women. Obviously that's no excuse what so ever for what he did and I'm guessing he also had other mental health
issues, but it does show us men are perfectly capable of suffering from deep emotional scarring that effects them for long periods of time.
Also, when a women rejects a man, on some level the guy knows she is rejecting him as a potential mating partner, thus rejecting his sperm, so the egg
argument holds no water what so ever. Not to mention a women is far less likely to be rejected when hitting on a man, because as we all know, and as
studies have even proven, men have much lower standards and many traits that women find unattractive on men are actually desirable for women. For
example a women with pale skin is often something men find attractive, a guy with pale skin is a geek. Even a nerdy girl with glasses is considered
cute by a surprisingly large fraction of men. A short girl is also attractive to men because they tend to like petite women which are shorter than
Although it's also fine if a women is tall because men like long legs. Doesn't really matter if a girl has small or large breasts, there's a large
group of men for every shape and size, many guys don't even care about the size... guys have one main thing where women care about the size, obviously
some women don't care much but it's clear that percentage of women isn't close to the percentage of guys who don't care about breast size. Eliza
mentions that maybe one day in a Utopian world where men and women are treated equally, maybe women will be able to hit on men just as much as men hit
on women. So if the chance of rejection is so much lower for women, why is it so hard to do it now, the patriarchy isn't going to stop it.
I'm sure most guys would love being hit on by a women. Now I'm not saying women should go out and hit on men out of empathy or some moral code, just
do what ever feels right and makes you feel good. See I don't understand what it is these feminist want most of the time... do they want women to hit
on them most of time because they put in so much effort to look attractive and because they want to protect their fragile emotions, or should we stop
hitting on women and stand against the evil patriarchy so that everyone is treated equally and fairly? I just don't understand. It's like the only
time these feminist truly want equality is when that equality doesn't involve taking on any undesirable responsibilities.
edit on 26/8/2018 by
ChaoticOrder because: (no reason given)