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originally posted by: DanDanDat
originally posted by: CornishCeltGuy
a reply to: DanDanDat
I'll repeat it again as I passionately believe it, if any parent makes a threat and then fails to follow through with it they are weak and the child will see thak weakness immediately.
What would you call it if it is not a sign of weakness then?
Kids exploit weak parents and I see little scrotes like that all the time because the parents are weak.
They deserve everything they get because a parent should be the strong one seeing as they provide ultimate care.
Friends and negotiation with kids, sheesh, what has the world become, no wonder there are so many entitled snowflakes in the world.
I'd say the way you are describing things is too simplistic.
Sure there are "week" parents out there who let there kids walk all over them and those kids take full advantage. Just like you I've encountered those kids and parents out and about... their usely the kids for example who cut in line in front of my behaved kids ... and since they are kids I can't do anything about it except tell my own kids to stick up for themselves... which involves telling them to do things I would not allow under normal circumstances... which is confusing to them... so I feel your pain when it comes to these parents.
But there are many different stop points between those parents and your prescribed parenting style. It's not ether or, it's not black and white.
The systematic reward system that started this conversation is not the issue with those parents and kids who go around terrorizing people. And can be a valuable tool if used constantly and for the right things.
originally posted by: mblahnikluver
Who the hell do you think you are??? Where did I say I give in or even remotely let him do what he wants? I didn't. I said I don't agree with rewarding behavior a child should just do! I think it's stupid and just shows kids they will get something if they're good. You're not rewarded in life so why should kids be coddled nowadays?!
My son knows the rules at home. He can try all he wants to get prizes at home it won't fly!
I hate the American eduction system. It sucks.
The house is your prize!
originally posted by: Flyingclaydisk
a reply to: Fehrie
I smell a reality show in the making!!!
Boot Camp for Tots - "You WILL call me SIR!", the final smackdown
The Drill Instructors will be these old, retired, geezer "Get off my Lawn!" types, getting right up in the kids faces and shouting at them to make their damn beds properly and learn how to march double-time.
"You listen to me, you little pathetic excuse for a gerbil...when I was your age I was double-timing it to the chow-hall through 8 feet of snow with a smile on my face because I just greased 16 gooks outside the wire on patrol and it wasn't even breakfast yet!!! DO-YOU-HEAR-ME, MAGGOT????"