I have a question for you older folks

My grandfather left his Ruger at my house last night. He is retired Air Force and is not stupid by any means. I let him use my house if needed over the weekend while I was gone. He stopped by one time and left it here. Which is fine if he had realized it.... He didn’t and that is what concerns me.


How do I bring this up to him? I don’t want to say he shouldn’t carry anymore but also I don’t want to say your too old to be doing this. I really don’t know what to do or say

a reply to: Allaroundyou


Just be honest.

"You left your gun here, Pops."


*boom*

Done.

Some things don't need to be complicated.

a reply to: Allaroundyou

Just say hey grandpa did you mean to leave your gun at my house? I was straightening up around the house and found it on the table, or wherever you found it. He might surprise you and say, I know, I wanted you to have it and then either say thanks if you want it, or no thanks but I appreciate the thought. This is not a rocket science question. Best to be direct and to the point.

a reply to: DBCowboy

Your correct that some things don’t need to be complicated. I have never been handed such a situation though. Remember I am young and this is all new to me. But thanks for the advice from you and manta78.... These suggestions actually will help. Thank you

a reply to: Allaroundyou

I'm agreeing with both the Cowboy and Manta, except I think it's more important. I mean, "Grandpa, I think you should just leave your gun here all the time. What if you forgot and left it somewhere while you were doing your rounds around town? It's an important thing."

If you don't shoot and want to learn, this is a good segue for Grandpa to teach you. If you shoot and like Ruger, maybe you could go out and nail a few targets, just the two of you. Have some fun, let him see you happy with it in your hands. It can be a heritage thing.

a reply to: Allaroundyou

Perhaps he meant to leave it for you, which is what I would ask.

a reply to: Allaroundyou

It doesn't sound like you have children running around your house. If you did, Gramp's negligence would be a deadly accident waiting to happen. I would definitely bring it to his attention and mention it could be extremely dangerous if he left his gun in a house where there are children.

Give it back and tell him, 'Yo, Biggie Grand Pops, you can't bust a cap in a gangsta's ass if you ain't holdin', Yo!

a reply to: WeRpeons

Half of us "old folk" grew up with guns all over the place. We were taught to respect them at a very early age, and how to use them.

And we're still here? Yes, indeed we made it.

Don't say anything. Don't even mention it the next time you see him. If he remembers and confronts you about it, give it to him. Simple!

I agree with the above posters.
But a couple questions:
How long ago was this?
Has he mentioned he is looking for it, to you or others?

a reply to: Allaroundyou

Having gone through this a few times, here's what I do.

First, be as respectful and helpful as possible. Old age is going to get us all, if we're lucky. Even the wisest and strongest will become weak and feeble. Consider how you would want to be treated when you get there.

If you have genuine concerns, express them. But if they are of sound mind let them continue to make their own decisions. It's okay to remind them when they are forgetful. It's okay to point out that their driving is getting worse, or that they shouldn't be over-exerting themselves. But you don't need a sledgehammer to drive a thumbtack. Little reminders and lots of love will do the trick.

Just help them be as independent as possible. Sometimes that may involve risks, but from what I've seen, an early death is better than a prolonged death in a nursing home.

a reply to: Allaroundyou

too little information provided

is this " ruger " - his only carry firearm ???

you say - he has access to your house - and is free to use it at his convenience - how much other stuff has he got at your house ????

you say he has not reaklised - how do you know ?? - could he have decided that he wants a weapon in your house ????

like i say - too little information and context

but if you are angling this at his mental competance - there MUST be other signs

Sell it. Buy yourself something pretty.

Don't say anything. If he can't remember where he left it, then he shouldn't have it.

originally posted by: ignorant_ape
a reply to: Allaroundyou

too little information provided

is this " ruger " - his only carry firearm ???

you say - he has access to your house - and is free to use it at his convenience - how much other stuff has he got at your house ????

you say he has not reaklised - how do you know ?? - could he have decided that he wants a weapon in your house ????

like i say - too little information and context

but if you are angling this at his mental competance - there MUST be other signs

He only had access to my home for the weekend as did my pet sitter.

He randomly left his side arm at my place. I live next to a range, so I assume he wanted to go shooting at some point.

I have NO problem with someone visiting and having a projectile. But for him to leave it and forget about it becomes a problem.

a reply to: Allaroundyou

I have NO problem with someone visiting and having a projectile. But for him to leave it and forget about it becomes a problem.

A projectile....

I thought you said it was a Ruger.

originally posted by: DBCowboy
a reply to: Allaroundyou


Just be honest.

"You left your gun here, Pops."


*boom*

Done.

Some things don't need to be complicated.

maybe forget the *boom* part. lol

sell it, get a new camera

originally posted by: olaru12
a reply to: Allaroundyou

I have NO problem with someone visiting and having a projectile. But for him to leave it and forget about it becomes a problem.

A projectile....

I thought you said it was a Ruger.

Is that not a projectile?

Depends Im running to stuff like that with my Mom, I sometimes think there isnt any reason to remark on any of their episodes my Mom can turn it into more than it is anyway. I keep a good eye on her but find no reason to point out stuff unless its potential harmful. As for your situation wrap it up stick it in a box and if he ask you say ohh I forgot I found this here. they know they are getting older and no need to add to that stress on every incident, I find myself telling her stuff I forget just so she knows its normal. Ofcourse a grandson and grandfathers dynamics could be different.