I simply don't know what to do...

originally posted by: CornishCeltGuy

But the OP's relationship seems to have been 15 years of both of them lying to their other partners, so I totally imagine trust issues.

I think the irony of this is lost on the Original Poster.

originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus

originally posted by: Flyingclaydisk
Some stranger calls my wife "Baby" in a sarcastic / provocative way, they're going to get their ass handed to them in a lunch bag.

What if he doesn't say it in a sarcastic way? What if he says it in a Barry White, smooth and deep as the Pacific without waves kind of way?

Then I'll ask him what kinda car he's drivin'.

10/10 Would not date paranoid guy who thought about leaving his wife for years for another woman, then did, then is worried about some random guy calling her baby.

Prediction: Will not end well.

a reply to: ArchangelOger


People will always be flirted with or hit on, but when a girl wants only you, you know it.

originally posted by: KTemplar
a reply to: ArchangelOger


People will always be flirted with or hit on, but when a girl wants only you, you know it.

Obviously, he's not convinced that she only wants him, which is why he's freaking out over it.

a reply to: Flyingclaydisk

I call any lady darlin, baby, sweets, if
we have' nt been introduced. I don't
mean anything buy it.

Oh but not you're wife. Never met her
don't know her.

originally posted by: CornishCeltGuy
a reply to: AugustusMasonicus
Lol

'Baby' isn't really used in my parts just 'Babe', but that can be from mixed gender friends to each other and/or between couples in a relationship.
It depends how the guy in the OP said it really, and what the protocol is in his area.
But the OP's relationship seems to have been 15 years of both of them lying to their other partners, so I totally imagine trust issues.

You know I have a theory about that......Someone who refers to the

opposite sex as babe all the time is playing safe .......

Like not calling out an inappropiate name at an inappropiate time


I have told my grandaughters to steer well away from anyone who cant

use their own lovely given names.

a reply to: eletheia

LMAO, this is a conspiracy site after all
I don't see the it as you do, all my friends are 'mate' in general conversation, same thing to me, just babe with female friends. I'm 'babe' back, even from women who serve me at the supermarket.
Like I said, different places, different expected protocols.

a reply to: CornishCeltGuy

I agree, where I'm from everyone is "love" or "dear" or "darling".

originally posted by: Atsbhct
a reply to: CornishCeltGuy

I agree, where I'm from everyone is "love" or "dear" or "darling".

In my book it cheapens the original meaning of those endearments

I wouldn't like to be in the shoes of anyone who wasn't close to refer to

me in that way.

But then I'm 'old school.'

a reply to: Atsbhct

Girl at the bakers always calls me 'my lovely' and always makes me smile. I don't think the terms are cheapened in any way, it's just natural in my parts.
I certainly wouldn't be instantly distrustful if someone called my romantic partner 'babe' and they were good friends. That would be seen as paranoia here for sure.

a reply to: ArchangelOger

When in doubt, swap it out.

I do not give anyone the benefit of the doubt anymore. I would be on red alert right now. Keep your eyes and ears open for more of these idiosyncrasies and weird juxtapositions. Write them down date and time etc. If you start filling out too many pages I would say you have enough information to make a decision by then.

Good luck.

You were pining for her when you were married. You were not focused on what you had, but on the thought of what you could get. Not what a mentally healthy male would do. You also ran from the situation but then restored contact, did you ever really ask yourself why?

She left her husband and you didn't say clearly why. If it was for you then why would you think she wouldn't cheat on you? She did it to someone else. If she didn't leave for that reason and it wasn't for you but she tried to attract you back then that's an issue as well.

You're both of questionable character in this situation.

Calling like I see it, I ain't perfect either but would never be in your shoes.