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originally posted by: TinySickTears
originally posted by: CornishCeltGuy
a reply to: Irishhaf
Sounds like a good plan
Wrapping up in cotton wool is the worst thing I think any parent can do, and being so strict that your youngster is too scared to tell you stuff is also a fail. I was good cop and my son's mother was bad cop, he'd tell me everything, and I'd sugar coat it when I told his mother, and chilled her out. It was great teamwork, she knew it was the best way for us all to work together as a family.
i think lying to your kids is bad too
i dont mean telling your 5 year old about santa.
im talking kids that ask their parents about grass or something when they are however old. parents lie and tell them all kinds of terrible # to try and deter them from trying it.
wanting to deter your kids from that is a good thing. lying about it is bad though cause at some point they are going to get curious when they are a young teen and they will try it and realize all their parents told them about it is bull#. then they will start to question other things too or start to not trust their parents.
my daughter is 6 and just yesterday she asked my wife where babies come from. i wasnt here so my wife waited for me to get home so we could talk about how to tell our daughter.
i said just tell her.
so i told her about the penis and the vagina. how it is called sex.
she looked at me with a look on her face like its the grossest thing ever.
then dropped it like it was nothing.
i wasnt going to tell her some damn bird drops kids off or some magic happens.
why do that you know?
originally posted by: ClovenSky
Hmm, I have directly witnessed multiple episodes of parents who were best friends with their kids, before the kids left the house. It was an ugly sight, especially for the single parent households.
I don't think parents should be their kids best friends until those kids are independent and on their own. Then that kind of relationship can develop without screwing up the kids.
he loved pulling old cougars, said the sex was much better than girls his own age.
originally posted by: lakenheath24
Lol....some kids need cotton wool and others need steel wool. I have had both!!!!!
a reply to: ketsuko
originally posted by: Irishhaf
I still consider my parents friends, always have... BUT, I also knew that if I really pushed it an attitude adjustment was incoming. They taught me right from wrong and if I crossed a line they were no longer friends, they no longer had my back and they were going to punish me. This was all clearly taught to me as I grew up, here is the line cross it at your peril.
I think you can be friends but it has to have boundaries, the problems I have noticed as I have hit middle age is a lot of kids were never shown boundaries of any sort.