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originally posted by: DigginFoTroof
This has happened a few times and I'm always confused when it happens and it's best explained in the story of what happened.
A few years ago I was talking to a woman who I've known since I was an infant. We were talking for about 45 mins about a recent surgery she had and all the problems she had been having since. She required help doing a lot of things now and wasn't very mobile and not mobile w/o a lot of pain. She said it was due to something the surgeon did during the operation, instead of just removing some cartilage from the knee, they "scrapped" the arthritis to the bone and this caused more severe pain than what she had before surgery but it was different than the cartilage surgery. Her husband was there and told me how much trouble she was having since the surgery and how mad he was at the surgeon b/c he was to specifically not scrape the arthritis as it is known to cause this condition. I knew about this issue as about 20 years before this I had a relative who went through the same thing and they went from being active in sports to not being able to do any sports that required running/movement - so the conversation was memorable. The reason she went in depth about it was b/c I was having similar problems as she had and was looking at surgery, so it was a precautionary tale I guess.
So now, about 3-4 years later I see her again and ask her about her knee and she said it was great and went on to say after the surgery she never had any problems or pain again and had more flexibility and mobility than ever before. Well that is odd. I probed a little and asked if she had any pain after the surgery or pain related to it and she said she didn't. She went on with some more anecdotes which directly contradicted what was previously said and I just listened wondering if this was the same person I had spoken to before (which it was, as it was my neighbor so I don't get them confused...)
Now I've had this type of thing happen a number of times where the person tells one story and then some time later I get a COMPLETELY opposite story or at minimum denial or omission of the original story. Some things are more trivial like telling me they used to ride their bike 10 miles a day to work while at college (all 4 years) and then later telling me they haven't been on a bike since they got their license at 16.
Now IDK enough about people to know if they would make up stories like this for some reason and then later forget they told the story, IDK what the purpose would be of making it up in the first place, maybe for something to talk about or for attention of some type. I have a different type of memory than most people I have met where I can remember conversations and details for very long times after they happen, often recalling exact phrases/words used - especially when the issue relates to me personally or is controversial. I've found many times people completely deny saying things which I know for a fact they said b/c after the conversation I ponder their statements and often recall it (internally) when I see them.
When we would go on summer vacation with our friends, we would get a house a couple doors down and I would remember all the guests at their house (their extended family), who was there what years, what cars they had, what we did, who got in fights and why, etc. I was young 9-18yrs old and was very observant especially b/c often it was like observing & interacting with zoo animals up close and personal. Years later, this family would argue about things that happened on vacation (often both were wrong) and I would explain what happened w/ intricate details (like replaying video in my mind) and they would look at me in amazement and both would agree that that was how it happened and now remembered it correctly. So this kind of memory has permeated much of my life and is both a burden and blessing, but it makes situations like the first conversation very odd and unsettling.
There are so many people in my life that I feel are not the same person that they were when I was younger and not in ways that they have aged, matured, gotten wiser, etc, but completely different as in (in many cases) much dumber, more irrational, incapable of problem solving, unobservant unable to explain or utilize basic concepts from their profession or major (college major). It's like the person is a stand in for the original. When asking someone with a PhD in a field a question a first year student can answer and they either can't answer (the question) or give a very nebulous answer, then I think there is something very wrong. The people who are exhibiting this behavior also seem to be locked in a loop of repeating stories they have told 100's of times (no lie, that many at least), never adding new stories from their childhood or early life, it is always stories I and others have heard many times before. I thought that when I got older I might hear some stories which had been withheld due to age appropriatness but that doesn't seem to be the case. It seems that someone stepped in the body and is repeating things that have already been told to others as they have no knowledge of the life which wasn't shared (orally) with others.
When we would go on summer vacation with our friends, we would get a house a couple doors down and I would remember all the guests at their house (their extended family), who was there what years, what cars they had, what we did, who got in fights and why, etc. I was young 9-18yrs old and was very observant especially b/c often it was like observing & interacting with zoo animals up close and personal. Years later, this family would argue about things that happened on vacation (often both were wrong) and I would explain what happened w/ intricate details (like replaying video in my mind) and they would look at me in amazement and both would agree that that was how it happened and now remembered it correctly. So this kind of memory has permeated much of my life and is both a burden and blessing, but it makes situations like the first conversation very odd and unsettling.
Anyone else experience anything like these issues? I was wondering if it was alzhiemers but if that is the case then there are A LOT of people (like 40%+) I know who are exhibiting this and it isn't only with "older" people but even those who are 18-40 years old (along with people up to 70yrs old).
I have a different type of memory than most people I have met where I can remember conversations and details for very long times after they happen, often recalling exact phrases/words used - especially when the issue relates to me personally or is controversial. I've found many times people completely deny saying things which I know for a fact they said b/c after the conversation I ponder their statements and often recall it (internally) when I see them.
To the last reply above, I think you need to check yourself before calling people arrogant and manipulative or whatever.
I'm not either of those in this situation and have no reason to be nor would I benefit by doing so and it make no sense to claim that I am other than to try to discredit the experience which others have said they have had similar as well.