posted on Jun, 13 2018 @ 05:15 PM
a reply to: keithpayne77
I'm not loud at all actually, I'm the most chill, calm, and reserved person you know. I live in a state of Zen and nearly everyone loves my company
because I reach them at their level and listen to them closely.
But then again, you don't know me personally because you never had the guts to find out who I really was. I forgive you for that but it's not too
late. I'm more open minded than ever before.
I'll give you a tip though, if it takes eight trips to get 3 kids to go play out in the backyard, you're probably too busy worried about yourself to
see all of the answers outside of the box you trapped yourself in.
What is your style? Have you considered offering them a reward for behaving and doing as you ask? Like, for example, you could tell them if they go
outside and play for awhile and be good, that you'll get them ice cream or pizza or something they like (you'll know what they like better than
You can make suggestions for things they could do, and embellish it a bit to share some enthusiasm and excitement with them. Example: "Hey kids! Wow
look it's not too hot outside today, that means you get to go play! Omg this is so fun and cool!"
I strongly advise you avoid getting mad at them or showing aggravation. That means you are the one with the problem. So be thoughtful and
conscientious, share with them your happiness and your cheer. If they respond with reasons not to do something or to not do as you request - first
listen to what they are saying and how they say it. Second determine where they are at in their minds. Then from there, the third part is to utilize
your discernment to offer to them the solutions you come up with, cheerfully, so that they might be convinced to just go outside and play for awhile
so that you can enjoy your day too.
I realize that you may not be able to achieve success with kids as easily as I can (I'm a natural and virtually all kids listen to me and do as I ask
of them on the first try), but if you really put your Heart into it and appreciate them for who they are and show off to them your talents and give
them your highest energy - than they'll love it and you for it. And they'll go out and play and not run in and out back and forth constantly. You
gotta approach it from their level and remember what it was like to be a kid. Understanding them is the key. You are their leader, so do the very best
you can. I know you might be tired and stressed but you need to chill out and enjoy your life while you have it. You're so lucky, I'd take advantage
of it and have fun if I were you.