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originally posted by: mblahnikluver
I am tired of having a landlord who doesn't fix anything. I moved in two years ago. I spent 5 weeks cleaning, painting and REDOING THE KITCHEN before I moved in. It's affordable rent, it's the only reason I took the place. It was disgusting when I looked at it but i was desperate for a place of my own with my son. I have a roof that leaks ALL the time. My ceiling in my room is about to cave in, no joke. I paid 2 months rent in advance when I moved in and I couldn't even live in the place for 5 weeks because it was so bad. Did I ever get a thank you? NOPE! I have all my windows nailed shut, mold, walls that leak when it rains heavy, window AC units that barely work and freeze over, plumbing that you have to flush the toilet a minimum of 5 times for it to go down. I have repeatedly told my landlord these things. He always says "I will get to it" and yet here I am two years later, same stuff. I pay my rent and sometimes I pay a couple months in advance so it's taken care of. Does he ever say thank you? NO instead he threatens me when it doesn't get to him in the mail when he feels he should get it. Sure I could call code on him and he would be utterly screwed but so would I. See I live in FloriDUH and there are ZERO laws to protect renters. So if I called sure he would be fined to no end and I would pay rent into an escrow type account BUT he can legally evict me by saying he chooses not to rent anymore yet anyone with a brain would know it's because I reported him. I have had a code enforcement officer tell me this is why people don't report landlords here. Now isn't that unfair? A tenant who pays rent yet a landlord can get away with having a place not up to code and unsafe. I could write a thread on the issues with this place. I can't afford to move because I everything where I live is minimum $1000 for a 2/1. It sucks......
I am tired of my ex husband getting away with not paying court ordered child support and I am expected to spend money on a lawyer to enforce a court order. I am tired of him harassing me daily and asking for vulgar things so he will send money. I am beyond over the system again that seems to do nothing but allow these deadbeats to get away with it and the one parent raising the kid to struggle. I have tried legal aid and get this I make too much money which is a joke. I barely survive and I have nothing, no car payment, no credit cards. I live a very frugal life. I have spent two years trying to get it docked from his pay. He makes $75k a year and lives at home. He occasionally sends $100 here or there but he is suppose to pay $600/mth and pay for child care. He does neither. I am beyond stressed because I have no idea how I will pay the $400 for child care in July for summer school, something HE is suppose to pay. Now he use to pay CS when he felt like it but stopped when he found out I had a boyfriend and was going to Europe. He said he doesn't need to pay and that my bf can pay. He harasses me daily via text and I have had panic attacks as a result. I am so over it. They make it impossible to enforce a court order. I have gone to lawyer after lawyer. They all want $5000! It is INSANE! Who has that kind of money?! I have gone to the court house and they give me a book of papers I can't understand so they sit in a pile.
I am tired of a job where I feel like a doormat. No appreciation whatsoever. It's always "oh you should do this" or "take one for the team" yea no. I will pass. I love my job, it's who I work for I don't care for. I am so tired of them doing things that are downright shady and probably illegal in the insurance world and I get paid pennies. I recently did something that took me time to set up and now when those calls come in I do ALL the work and I get no credit for it. Another person at another office not even associated with mine gets the credit. I am tired of working for nothing. I have no benefits of any kind. Everything I was told when I was hired as far as bonus is now no longer. I am one person that does the job of 2-3 and probably paid the least. I have since been applying locally at other agencies for what I do now. I know my worth and I honestly don't feel right with the things they do here that are very shady. For example. We are an independent agency owned by the same family that owns a franchise of a huge insurance chain. Well they bought two more of that chain in another county and our local independent agency sends them policies to bind which is wrong. To me it's like insider trading when you compare what they are doing. We are NOT suppose to even deal with those agencies but the way they have us do it it's almost like no paper trail yet there is. Morally I find it so wrong because it screws everyone who does the actual work, IE me for one! I made a rant about morals in the work place and well they are truly lacking.
I am just tired.......tired of playing by the rules and doing what I am suppose to and getting stomped on all over the place. I have my son who keeps me going and an amazing man in my life who makes me feel loved more than I have ever felt in my life. I know these things may seem silly to some but it takes a toll when you are constantly being shot down when you do everything right. Why is it people who lie, cheat and steal get ahead more? How is that even ok? I was raised NOT to do any of those things yet it seems that is what people do now a days.
I just needed to vent as I am beyond worn down lately........I love my job I just don't like how things are done in a shady manner. It really affects my energy. I love that i have a roof over my head but said roof could literally collapse at any moment. Oh and i can't get renters insurance on the place because it would NEVER pass inspection so I am fully screwed if something happens. I love my son but I hate his father and never thought he would be such a sleazy dirt bag.
I am just tired...
originally posted by: Thecakeisalie
a reply to: mblahnikluver
I hear you with both ears.
My situation is not so dire but sometimes when you talk to the landlord the words enter one ear and exits through the other.
originally posted by: ketsuko
We lived in a rundown craphole when we were in college. We finally made a deal with our landlord -- anything maintenance-wise we did ourselves, we could send him the receipts and charge ourselves minimum wage in labor and he'd take it off our rent.
Maybe you could try that? It won't take care of the major stuff, but maybe you could address some of the minor issues that way and get a discount while you're at it.
originally posted by: BeefNoMeat
a reply to: mblahnikluver
If it’s worth anything, I read your entire post. I wish you the best of luck and we all have struggles. It's not a panacea, but I do occasionally tell myself this when I’m in a tough spot: “at least I’m not waking up in a Haitian ghetto”.
Hell, Kate Spade tapped out this AM in a Manhattan apartment; a note was left and I would bet my last dollar (outside of finding out she was imminently and terminally ill) she’d trade places with you after the fact.
I read your lamenting of your company offering up the nominal “take one for the team” platitude, so forgive me for saying, “bite down on that mouthpiece and hang in there”.
Best of luck with Florida family courts and a sh$tty landlord.
originally posted by: rickymouse
Cheer up. At least you don't have to worry about things getting much worse.
Go buy yourself some candy so you can cope with all the depressive things going on in your life lately. I'd send you some reeses peanut butter cups but they would be all melted by the time you got them and you would be complaining about that.
originally posted by: caterpillage
Sounds like a new job and place to live is in order.
Things are certainly not looking like they are going to improve as is.
If that's not an option you're willing to embark on, then as the old saying goes, suck it up buttercup!
The only one who has the power to change your situation. Is you.
originally posted by: ketsuko
Well if he won't work with you, then you need to go elsewhere.
He's taking advantage of you as it is now.