posted on May, 28 2018 @ 09:58 PM
I'm going to start by saying...I'm not normally a fan of global news and the things they write...but I thought i'd post this because...it's
something that gets debated here and I have to listen to people babble about this stuff kind of regularly without really getting to voice an opinion
At some point – soon I am hoping – feminists are going to realize they have solved all the problems they set out to solve for girls and we can
turn our attention to real problem now facing society: the boy crisis.
It really is apparent that it is a first world problem: Farrell says that in 70 developed nations, boys have fallen behind girls in tests of
We have a generation of boys being raised that will have less education than their fathers. We have boys disproportionately diagnosed with ADHD,
living in their parents’ basements with no purpose, addicted to video games, addicted to pornography, addicted to drugs, and in the extreme
committing suicide and homicide.
these conditions are linked by one factor common to all developed nations: The breakdown of the family through divorce. We are now learning that the
loss of dad in a boy’s life has a profound impact on his social development. The way Farrell describes it, moms are hard-wired to protect their
children from harm and are more likely to relax boundaries. Dad’s roughhousing may irritate mom – “someone’s going to get hurt!” – but it
is a vital way to teach children about risk and to test their own limits at an early age. Whereas mom might be willing to give their son ice cream
even if he doesn’t finish his peas, dad will tell his son he has to live up to the deal to clean his plate before getting dessert. It may seem like
a small matter, but this daily setting of expectations and interactions makes all the difference.
In the case of a bad marriage breakup, where the boy continuously hears his mom constantly criticizing his dad, he can also develop self-loathing
which can manifest in self-harm and harming others.
Personally, my parents got divorced when me and my sister were young...they were reasonable about it...our parents never bad mouthed each other to us
or in front of us, our mom and dad tended to agree and compromise on as much as they could so we got to see both of them as much as we could there was
still a strong influence from both of them on our lives. Honestly though I could see how if it had been different we may not have turned out to be at
least reasonably decent people. I've seen a lot of men over the years who have little ambition or drive in life, can't handle basic social
interaction, who become possessive and controlling in the few relationships they manage to have. It's definitely a fairly common thing to see some
random guy raging out on the street, or living with his mom at 30 years old with a history of part time work and unemployment. Personally I really
don't know what the reason is. In my years of working with different people at different kinds of work, there is one thing i've noticed, most women,
if it's some kind of physical or intellectual work tend to not have asuch of an ego about things and dont seem to assume they should have whatever
they want while doing nothing. A lot of men don't seem to understand the value.of hard work in anything these days...a lot of women also...but I
suppose it's harder to just slide by in life without doing things as a man...
Now as to the point on feminists....I'm probably going to come across as an asshole here...but...i've got some fairly vocal agressive friends who
like to go on about how oppressed and terrible their lives for and how good they feel about going to feminist rallies and such. Personally, over the
years, i've met lots and lots of different people from lots of different placed and walks of life. People are all different i've met women who are
for more capable 'men' than many men i've met and met men who are far more capable 'women' than lots of women i've met. Don't get me wrong,
i've seen harassment based on gender, i've also experienced it, # happens. But honestly, if you're a woman living in a western country. You're
probably doing alright.
If feminists really wanted to make a difference they would travel to places like Indonesia, Pakistan, Malaysia, the Philippines or any other of the
numerous countries where women really do live hopeless bleak existences where their futures really are baby making slaves for some men..and show these
women they don't have to live like that.
These are just my random thoughts on this as I read through the article.