Had a massive fight this fine eve' with the family and I'd like to hash it out with you guys. I'm not doing this to rub my ego or 'prove a point' I
simply want a diverse opinion as I can and any response will be welcomed.
So. I'm guessing we have all, by now at least, heard of the cultural phenomena that is Ru Paul's Drag Race.
My three sister's love that show and everything about it, they quote it as often as they can and I have put up with it for a long, long time.
Tonight was a different story. I asked my sister, who has 2 children aged 7 and 11 why she allowed her children to parrot and watch the show, seeing
as I think it has raunchy undertones that aren't suitable for kids. I have a child myself and would not allow my child to watch it.
I asked also why it was that everyone has such a fascination with something I consider to be quite perverse. Using the LITERAL definition of the
My sister launched into a tirade at me accusing me of being homophobic (I did not say ONE thing about gay people, other than that acronym used
includes trans' people). I then had another sister jump in claiming I was being bigoted and homophobic because I asked them why drag queens choose
such deliberately provoking names and wear such ludicrous attire (I was genuinely curious btw).
I then went and watched a segment of Ru Paul to see if I was being unreasonable and, low and behold, he's playing a game where he's hidden a 'pickle'
in a box that's supposedly a man's penis (which is the joke that's implied when the other 'queen' had to blindly feel the box in his lap). I was like,
I then asked why it was okay for them to marginalize me for disagreeing with them on this issue and why their loyalty lay with someone they'd never
met or have anything in common with? I also asked how disagreeing with drag was 'homophobic'. More hate was thrown at me.
It was at the point one of my 'sisters' started mocking, openly, Christ in our discussion for NO reason at all, no one mentioned it. I just let that
slide as it's not my place to preach to her, I know she'd reject me.
I had to endure the abuse whilst at the same time being accused of abusing. I was in despair at this point so lashed out at them saying "You can't
accept me for my beliefs and you're attacking me based on that, yet accusing ME of being bigoted"?
I guess this rant comes down to this. Why, OH WHY are people so pathologically INCAPABLE of hearing both sides of a debate? I see it ALL THE TIME on
ATS and it's so infuriating. Partisan shiz and people towing their 'left/right lines and slogans, their people and parties yada yada.
Is this the new normal. Families divided over arbitrary alliances of emotional attachment rather than their familial bond? People forced to stay
silent on issues they have an opinion on because others accuse them of 'hate' (A crime in Britain)? People allowed, by virtue of their 'suffering' to
very much injure their counter-debater, based purely on their FEELINGS?
I'm now deeply hurt and two of my sisters wont talk to me because I DARED to voice an opposition opinion to their warped frame of reality. Am I the
bad guy here ATS? Is disagreeing with drga an automatic trip to the homophone dustbin? I can't even talk to my sisters as they blocked me on social
media and live far way. I'm really very upset about this.
I can't change how I think regarding this issue, I like truth too much. People pretending to be something isn't my idea of a 'true self' it's a mask
for something they're missing. I'm just confused and tired ATS.
Am I a bigot for disagreeing? How do you see it?
edit on 11/10/2012 by Joneselius because: (no reason given)