a reply to: EasternShadow
if one marries someone who has never drank alchohol outside of maybe a glass of wine at special dinners, how would one know if that person turns into
a violent jerk when they are drunk? just asking here, since you seem to think that we all have crystal balls in our closet that we can peer into and
know the future.
while I agree that it would be much better once kids enter the picture if couples managed to stay together if at all possible, it's a denial of
reality to think that that will always be possible. I am sorry if that reality seems to collide with your basic religious beliefs of an infallible,
all knowing god who's only source of wisdom it seems is written in a centuries old book. or your misinterpretation of those words.
no one should be encouraged to stay within a home where there is an abusive relationship, and you can cry about their "selfishness" all you want...
it's you who is being selfish here, you just can't stand the idea that they are the living proof that your perfect lifestyle that you want to force
onto others just isn't perfect in some cases. but, there is an alternative to divorce in such cases. it's probably ain't gonna lead to your happy
little traditional family, but they can separate and chose to not remarry, remain celibate. but then you are talking about children being raised in a
single parent home, possibly denying them any possibility of a substitute figure stepping into the kid's life and being a much needed role model, not
to mention, a two parent family, even if it includes a step-parent, is much more financially stable than a one parent family.
again, we don't all have crystal balls stashed in our closet, we really have no idea what the man we marry today will be like ten, twenty, thirty
years down the road after we've journeyed together through the valleys, climbed the mountains, and made our way through the deserts that life
presents. life can be a bitch, it can be maddening, and sometimes it breaks people and turns them into abusive, dangerous people who their families
cannot live with and be safe. this has been and always will be true no matter how much you gripe about their "bad choices" and selfish actions!
god allowed divorce very early on because he found that the burden that was heaped onto the abandoned women was far greater than they could endure!!
and when christ told his disciples what god originally intended, what was the first words out of their mouths?? wasn't it something like my lord, if
that be the case, it is better not to marry!! of which he agreed. it is better to be celibate than to be entwined to that extent... of which up
till jesus' time they all thought it was only the women that was entwined... while they were still free to do as they will. and, mind you that this
was jesus talking to his disciples, many of whom were married, whom he told to forsake their mothers, their fathers, their wives, their families and