Local preschool banning kids from using the term 'best friend'

a reply to: Krakatoa
Silly to do at that age. They don’t really understand. I can see how it might make some friends feel sad if they’re aren’t the “best” one though.

Similar to them being told not to bring the b day party invites to school to hand out. That, I agree with. Some have to be real show offs and invite 20 out of 25 kids. If you want that many kids have them all or do the handing out privately after school hours.

originally posted by: [post=23336076]violet[/po
Some have to be real show offs and invite 20 out of 25 kids. If you want that many kids have them all or do the handing out privately after school hours.

Invite who you like...you seem to be part of the 'i'm your fave culture lol

a reply to: Krakatoa

This is why I left Mass. I could never have a child there.

a reply to: Krakatoa

Teacher was obviously no one's 'best friend' as a child

originally posted by: NarcolepticBuddha
a reply to: Krakatoa

Teacher was obviously no one's 'best friend' as a child

On the surface, I would tend to agree. Projection of personal infantile emotion is the only rational explanation in this case.

Similar to them being told not to bring the b day party invites to school to hand out. That, I agree with. Some have to be real show offs and invite 20 out of 25 kids. If you want that many kids have them all or do the handing out privately after school hours.




Violet, I agree with you here; in a classroom, Birthday invites should be handled outside of school. I’ve seen way too many kids spend days wondering if “so and so” in their classroom was going to invite them.

I was also an after school counselor, and I spent many afternoons comforting these kids.

The best friend comment also affects them in Elementary grades, not so much preschool or kindergarten IMHO.

originally posted by: introvert

originally posted by: Wardaddy454

originally posted by: introvert
a reply to: Metallicus

Tribalism is simply an aspect of the human condition...certainly nothing to be ashamed of.

Ashamed of? I suppose not, but also not to be embraced when that tribalism affects the individuals ability to free thought.

It is a survival instinct at our most basic level and part of what makes human beings who and what they are.

Yes, when we were running around in packs trying to kill wild beasts for food and clothing.

Given today's society and how we have evolved, tribalism is illogical.

Embrace your tribe.

I don't have a tribe and have no need for one.

Well as an introvert, you'd have to say that.

I do not have to say anything.

Since I am not part of a "tribe", I can say what I like.

You are in a tribe.

You just don't see it.

originally posted by: KTemplar



Violet, I agree with you here; in a classroom, Birthday invites should be handled outside of school. I’ve seen way too many kids spend days wondering if “so and so” in their classroom was going to invite them.

I was also an after school counselor, and I spent many afternoons comforting these kids.

The best friend comment also affects them in Elementary grades, not so much preschool or kindergarten IMHO.

I remember telling fibs to the school counselor just to see what they'd do. But I see why my generation (millennial mind you) is the way it is now.

When you coddle them, how exactly are you preparing them for the real world?

a reply to: burdman30ott6

Heh...I don't generally let me disagreements over opinions dictate my opinions of others too much. You and I tend to agree on most things, I think, so why would I let an unconstitutional act by our president erase all of that?

(sorry, couldn't resist)

We started homeschooling because our son was having major issues with things like keeping his hands off of people, raising his hand before speaking, remaining seated, staying quiet, etc., etc.

It wasn't until after our decision to pull him out of public school after he finished 3rd grade did we realize that we needed to have some things looked at by professionals--at first, it was an ADHD diagnosis (from a psychologist, NOT a psychiatrist...we didn't medication pushed on us), but that didn't seem to be the only thing, so we went back, and sure enough, he has Asperger's Syndrome as well.

Those explained everything about his behavior (other than those you-must-act-like-a-robotic-specimen issues, he's a great kid with a big heart), and now he's excelling greatly.

He starts 9th grade next year, and has basketball hopes and dreams, so we're considering public school this year to see how it goes. We tried it two years ago, and he just couldn't handle being cooped up in cinderblock walls all day and came home emotionally drained from trying to 'keep it together' at school--that lasted 9 days. At that point, he got in trouble for trying to help a friend get down from something that he climbed up on and then was scared to get down from, and that pushed the experience over the edge.

We're a little nervous about it, but not too bad. We live in a semi-rural area that has an independent school district, and we have a very high libertarian- and conservative-minded population in Northern Kentucky, so I'm not necessarily worried about progressive stupidity on a massive scale. My wife and I can deal with the rest by talking with him about things.

originally posted by: introvert
a reply to: Krakatoa

If true, I don't see the logic in this, but I also don't see the logic in saying you need to leave a state because of what one pre-school teacher did/said.

That seems to be about just as ridiculous.

originally posted by: xuenchen
A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

School system-wide failure.

😎

It appears to be a private school.

My grandson's public grade school discourages Best Friends (I don't think its banned).

It has had a positive effect of inclusion - - - like this preschool says.

Sometimes evolving how we socially interact is a good idea - - - we should not necessarily have an "It's always been that way" kneejerk reaction.

a reply to: Krakatoa

In the end thoughtcrime will be literally impossible because there will be no words in which to express it...The whole climate of thought will be different. In fact there will be no thought, as we understand it now...There'll be no reason or excuse for committing thoughtcrime...The Revolution will be complete when the language is perfect.

originally posted by: Wardaddy454

originally posted by: KTemplar



Violet, I agree with you here; in a classroom, Birthday invites should be handled outside of school. I’ve seen way too many kids spend days wondering if “so and so” in their classroom was going to invite them.

I was also an after school counselor, and I spent many afternoons comforting these kids.

The best friend comment also affects them in Elementary grades, not so much preschool or kindergarten IMHO.

I remember telling fibs to the school counselor just to see what they'd do. But I see why my generation (millennial mind you) is the way it is now.

When you coddle them, how exactly are you preparing them for the real world?

I don’t consider taking extra time to listen to kids talk about what worries them as coddling.

Sometimes a kid just needs someone to listen.

originally posted by: KTemplar
I don’t consider taking extra time to listen to kids talk about what worries them as coddling.

Sometimes a kid just needs someone to listen.

Agreed.
I've never been the cash richest parent in town, but communication, empathy, understanding, and love, plenty of that to share.
Was chatting to mates the other day and all of our adult kids are in a better position than us when we were their age, that's gotta be a result.

I see MKULTRA is alive and well in the USA.

a reply to: PsychoEmperor

Ugly Tommy wants to have sex with you. How dare you say no! That would make Ugly Tommy feel bad. I don't care if you're not gay ... Why are you so homophobic about this?

originally posted by: bender151
a reply to: Krakatoa

"No one is better than anyone, and everyone is the best at everything. " - Principal Skinner

Depends on what he means by better than.

There are many people that are better at certain tasks and some far more skilled than I. in fact, many of those people that were better, gave me the incentive, the drive and purpose I needed to do better.

There is nothing wrong with not being the best at anything. No one is the best at everything. You find your talent and you become the best that you can be. That is enough.

If he means one life does not have more value than another's I can accept that, but if he believes that all are equally talented, then he is wrong to push that idea into a child's head.

originally posted by: PsychoEmperor
a reply to: Krakatoa

I can't wait until they start telling kids they aren't allowed to reject someone because it can hurt their feelings.

Lol!!!.... Talk about returning to the dark ages, that was the policy when

was young.

"Ugly tommy wants to take you on a date, you say yes! and dont' call him ugly he's beautiful! and dont' assume his gender he can be a her, and how dare you be anti female!, not give her a big kiss!

Reminders of my youth a long time ago....

You had to dance with the first person who asked you....I was tall and

considered attractive and dances was the place to socialise.

Between dances the short *ugly tommies* you mentioned hovered around me and

pounced as soon as the music started and invariably their noses were stuck in my

breasts how (I hated that.)

I had my eye on a much younger taller fella nearer my age.


Eventually I got so mad I began to refuse these weasley *ugly tommies* and waited

to be asked by someone I actually liked to dance. After that the *ugly tommy*

managed to catch me at a time I was on my own and threatened to report me to

the management of the dance hall and have me ejected!!!!which could well

have happened!!!!


OF COURSE THAT WAS LONG BEFORE WOMEN HAD ANY RIGHTS!!


Are we going back to that time.....over my dead body

a reply to: eletheia

Wow what an interesting yet disturbing dance Hall history story, thanks for sharing, I'd love you to start a thread about something like that in the social issues forum.

That's why i would never send my children to any school EVER.

Homeschooling is the only way.

originally posted by: EternalShadow

You either think "teaching and raising" as it pertains to SCHOOL are synonymous, or you enjoy glossing over the fact that the two are completely separate things.

Look at what deviating from the required curriculum has produced.

Three letters:

SJW

Along with political correctness, entitlement, fear of rational thinking, a completely disconnected sense of self as the 'herd' is more important than the individual, etc.

These kids are being ripped apart mentally.

That's not schooling, that's brainwashing.

^^^^And people wonder why there is an increase in mental health issues.^^^^^

Good post.