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posted on Jul, 26 2018 @ 07:11 PM
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originally posted by: LookingForABetterLife
The story of Dad,
by the son of Dad -

For those not familiar with the dad of this story here are his issues:

Diabetes
Onset of Dementia
Brain Damage
Very Poor Hearing
Very Poor Vision

Yet since this is his house he considers himself king of the castle and mom and I are nothing but peons. This means that he "has" to do all the shopping and driving. His driving scares the xxxx out of me so I avoid going anywhere with him as much as I can.

A brief introduction to Mom:

To here there are a few things that she avoids as they are the work of the devil.

Computers
Alcohol
Cigarettes of Any Kind
Plus she doesn't like Seafood (which is a shame)

Now back to my story. Dad is blind when it comes to buying anything from the "red" aisle of the grocery store. You know, the one with all the tomato-based products such as ketchup, pizza/pasta sauce, barbeque sauce and more. He always comes back from the store with the stupidest and mostly unusable items. Forget asking for barbeque sauce as he has no clue as to things such as mild/hot/way too spicy either. His latest failed purchase of barbeques sauce was of the Budweiser brand of honey BBQ. This is now banished from the house per mom's list of devil items.

He is addicted to buying anything that has a 'sales' or 'clearance' sticker on it regardless of what it is. His motto is "cheap is good and good is too expensive". I think I've shared with you his last ice tea purchase. That of mint flavored green tea. I have no issues with green tea. I just don't care to drink something that tastes like spearmint gum. The 'exciting' treat he brought home this week was also a misfire. The request was for peppermints. I'm addicted to them btw. How simple is it to buy something that says "PEPPERmints" and comes in a red and white bag? Of course, that was not simple enough for the king of the household. He brought home a blue and white bag of PEP-O-mints.

He is an idiot, he can't read because of that and other things his driver's license needs to be taken away. He is nothing but a danger to society.

As collecting things that others throw away is his hobby (hoarding) he came home with another desk for me. I have no problem with the new/used desk even with its problems. This issued I had with it were in part getting it from the SUV to my bedroom. I moved the old desk out of the way and swept under where it was. As my ankle is somewhat broken this was a challenge. Day one the desk stayed in the SUV as outside the temp. felt like 108 or so. The morning of day two I removed everything from my desk and place those things mostly on my be and recliner. Then (as I do so much) I waited. After too much waiting I asked mom where dad was. What happened was that mom and dad's health insurance will no longer be honored by their medical group at the end of October, therefore, dad went to their MD's office to find out what the alternatives would be. Of course, he cannot just call someone to get an answer he has to be there in person. The issue he is having is that he doesn't understand that it's not just the MD that will not longer take the insurance, it's all the specialist in the medical group as well.

So finally after too much time, I get the desk to use. He had to also go to the hardware store as the desk was missing a wheel. As it's a bit bigger than the older one I had to do some furniture moving around in the bedroom which is no fun on my ankle as it can give out on me without warning.

Earlier in the dad saga, he was panicking as he couldn't find his billfold (wallet). He asked mom and me if we had seen it. Finally, it was determined that he may have left it at the pharmacy. As it is too below him to talk on the phone he had mom call to verify that his long-lost wallet was there. Which it was of course.

Today he was trying to ask mom some questions but didn't understand that going to the bathroom takes some time and coming back every 10 seconds to see if she is finished is not the best things to do. Who knows what he wanted. He drove off to who knows where. I attempted to take a shower while he was gone but found out the hot water is now lukewarm water instead.






My wife knows people. Your choice, cactus patch or gar bait, just saying.

Just trying to lighten the mood a bit.

What are your options of getting out of that situation? There has got to be something, but it would take hard work and sacrifices to achieve it.
At what point would it take for you to say screw this and leave?

I have seen people go through this, and it just drags them down. Stop making excuses and be a man.


I know, it's harsh and you and others will hate me, but face the truth of the situation. You are miserable and stuck.

Find a way out.

There is always a way out.

Hopefully soon, you will find a better way out, blue. Believe in yourself.

I would help you if I could. All I can do is offer advice, even though it may not pleasant .




posted on Jul, 26 2018 @ 07:32 PM
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a reply to: LookingForABetterLife

Oh you poor thing.

It is odd how some of us seem to live in a Steinbeck/King novel combination and you add a dash of John Cleese.
You always amuse me when you write about your trials with your Father, I know you are dead serious and frustrated but you seem to distance your self with a wonderful sprinkle of sarcasm.
Hugs from WISter.

edit on 26-7-2018 by WalkInSilence because: (no reason given)



posted on Jul, 26 2018 @ 07:34 PM
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a reply to: Groot





Find a way out. There is always a way out. Hopefully soon, you will find a better way out, blue. Believe in yourself.


I think Blue has been trying hard and using every resource available to him. He had to miss an important appointment because their driver couldn’t make it, but I believe he is still slated to see the organization that can give him a leg up out of his current situation .
edit on 26-7-2018 by Sheye because: (no reason given)



posted on Jul, 26 2018 @ 07:51 PM
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originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: Groot





Find a way out. There is always a way out. Hopefully soon, you will find a better way out, blue. Believe in yourself.


I think Blue has been trying hard and using every resource available to him. He had to miss an important appointment because their driver couldn’t make it, but I believe he is still slated to see the organization that can give him a leg up out of his current situation .


I am sorry that I have missed this. Haven't been around much. Just offering my support and hope he get's a leg up on the situation. I do care about him.
edit on 26-7-2018 by Groot because: (no reason given)



posted on Jul, 26 2018 @ 07:54 PM
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There isn't always a way out.
Tragedy does not only strike in an instant, but can be slow to work its deed, tenacious in its subtlety.
One can make the gesture of resistance, to no avail when all doors are locked from the out side.
Hope then becomes willingness to survive and thrive to maintain sanity and compassion with in ones mental or physical confinement.



posted on Jul, 26 2018 @ 08:08 PM
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a reply to: WalkInSilence

What I wouldn't do for rain.


ETA And the eye candy I forgot to post.
The song title made me smile.

Stay hydrated folks.
edit on 26/7/18 by LightSpeedDriver because: ETA



posted on Jul, 26 2018 @ 08:36 PM
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a reply to: Groot

There is always a way out. It is just that I'm looking into one of my last chances of finding a positive way out of where I am now. ATS T&C's don't allow for my discussing my other option here. I'm at the end of my rope. I'm at the mercy of seeing if the organization I am seeing can help me in some way. My only other hope is with my Social Security hearing at the end of next month. Otherwise, there is nothing for me.



posted on Jul, 26 2018 @ 08:42 PM
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originally posted by: Groot

originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: Groot





Find a way out. There is always a way out. Hopefully soon, you will find a better way out, blue. Believe in yourself.


I think Blue has been trying hard and using every resource available to him. He had to miss an important appointment because their driver couldn’t make it, but I believe he is still slated to see the organization that can give him a leg up out of his current situation .


I am sorry that I have missed this. Haven't been around much. Just offering my support and hope he get's a leg up on the situation. I do care about him.


It’s easy to miss stuff on this thread .. and it’s obvious by your post your intentions were for his well being. My apologies if I didn’t make that clear in my reply.



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 03:19 AM
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a reply to: LookingForABetterLife

Good to see you are working toward a story of ..
Looking For A Better Life !

Don't let your Dad hold you back. He has his own crap

to deal with.

You only reap what you have sown.

g.co...

You have family here . 😊




edit on 27-7-2018 by Timely because: (no reason given)



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 10:02 AM
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a reply to: LookingForABetterLife

Your Dad needs supervision of some kind and can't be in charge of the family in his condition. I know it's upsetting to deal with him, but it isn't his fault that he has dementia, brain damage etc.

I know you are doing everything in your power to leave and start a new life and I wish you well my friend. Hugs!



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 10:04 AM
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a reply to: Groot


Hello Groot! It's been a while since you've last visited. Good to see you!



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 10:08 AM
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a reply to: WalkInSilence

Great Snoopy meme! What you said is true. There are instances when there isn't a way out.

At least we have this place and the lovely people who come here that help lift each other up.



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 10:17 AM
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I will be going out today with my friend Linda for lunch, groceries and errands. It's supposed to be hot and that sucks because even air conditioned stores are not cool enough and you can get sweaty. Lovely. LOL!

It will be good to get out of the house and have good company and some laughs.








posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 02:01 PM
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So, guess who fell off the bed he was trying to stand on while pinning up paper to block out some of the sunlight and then landed with almost full body-weight on an electrical extension box that had a plug in at the time? I can't walk and am peeing into a bucket I have in my room. Woe is me!

My neighbour was kind enough to go and get my shopping and ibuprofens though. Tomorrow is a new day with new sunshine. If my foot is dark purple and extremely swollen I will know if there is something really wrong.

Please enjoy your Friday and pay no attention to me wincing in pain in the corner. It's an innate gift. How to deactivate a persons freedom by disabling just one body part. The last time I fell drunk down some concrete stairs and fractured some ribs. But I wasn't drunk this time which made it extra painful. Such is life. I don't think I broke a bone but it feels like I came quite close.

I too was supposed to see friends this weekend but I can't go anywhere. They offered to pick me up. I explained that I can't take a single step unsupported. I'm just glad my new neighbour was home today. Time to pee into my bucket again...



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 02:12 PM
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a reply to: LightSpeedDriver

Wow Light 😳... sorry to read about your debilitating injury. Hopefully it’s nothing serious , and will mend quickly. In the meantime, be kind to it and don’t push it. I recommend seeing a doc to make sure there are no fractures.



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 02:40 PM
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a reply to: Sheye

Thanks. My Doc is at least 20 minutes walking distance when healthy (public transport). I can't make it to the door. I'll sit it out for a while. The bucket is handy though.
edit on 27/7/18 by LightSpeedDriver because: Clarification



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 02:53 PM
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originally posted by: LightSpeedDriver
a reply to: Sheye

Thanks. My Doc is at least 20 minutes walking when healthy (public transport). I can't make it to the door. I'll sit it out for a while. The bucket is handy though.


I bet the bucket is handy 😏... hopefully you have enough beer to get you through the next few days, and the swelling goes down ( if it did indeed swell). These so called little injuries in life can really put a damper on everyday living. Thank you for reminding me to use extra caution when reaching high. Was going to take a ceiling lampshade off the other day to wash it. I was going to stand on my bed, and considering my balance is not great I decided against it. If I fell and cracked my head on the edge of some furniture there would be no one around to help me. 😕



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 04:05 PM
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Dedicated to those who are dealing with “ol’ man trouble” at their door.

Wishing everyone much peace and good health.




posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 04:17 PM
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a reply to: LightSpeedDriver

Oh no! We'll have to put you and Blue in the healing ward here in the Shed.

I remember when I was hit by a mini van as a pedestrian and broke a leg, had severe contusions and was all scraped up and in a lot of pain. I could not get to the bathroom and had to pee so bad. I told Mark to get one of my big plant pots that luckily didn't have a plant in it and no drainage holes. Yep, that's where I peed. It is much harder for a woman. You guys have an advantage.



posted on Jul, 27 2018 @ 04:18 PM
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a reply to: Sheye

Wishing you peace and good health too Sheye!



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