Yesterday, my kids and the best friend from up the street went over to her house to play. A neighbor kid of hers a few doors down was having a
birthday party and went over to the friend's house to invite them over to partake. They were over there a good 3 hours having a fun time of it, the
family in general (parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc) pooled together to go all out for her with the deli platters and cake shop cake, etc. It
was awfully nice of her to invite them over to her party, they didn't expect that.
When they came home, Younger Kiddo was sniffling, which happens on occasion -- she's a little sensitive and something as common as a roadkill rabbit
can bum her out for days. Except when I asked what was wrong, she was evasive as hell about it.
Parental alarm bells GALORE going off. Operation Gentle Needling was a go.
"No, nobody was mean to me."
"No, nobody made fun of me."
"No, nobody hit me or hurt me."
"No, I didn't fall down or anything."
"No, nobody's dog scared me."
"No, no grown-ups yelled at me."
"No, I didn't break anything."
"No, I didn't steal anything."
"No, nobody stole anything of mine."
"No, I didn't feel ignored."
"No, I didn't feel jealous of her party."
After a while, it turned into "Just forget about it already!"
So I tried again this evening. She
finally admitted what had her so upset that she didn't want to talk about it.
Because it was a sudden invitation, she didn't have a gift to give the girl, and felt awful about it. "You never go to a birthday party without a
present, that is VERY rude and selfish, and I'm not rude OR selfish..." *big trembling lip*
She felt very guilty being there without a present, eating the food and playing with her. She felt like she was mooching. Having a kid with a
conscience sucks sometimes
We will remedy this in a few days when hubs has a day off so he can take her to the store to buy a belated gift. Child will NOT feel better til she
atones.