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originally posted by: CornishCeltGuy
a reply to: redhorse
I'd go if they haven't said you can't.
You can go on paper, you're just choosing not to.
originally posted by: TheLotLizard
Your first mistake was trying to go through the school. You should have contacted the parents directly. Secondly you should have recorded all contact with the principal. They are only there to make sure the school looks good from the outside.
Third mistake was not having your daughter go to the principal herself. There should be a no tolerance policy to bullying. She herself would have set forth an investigation.
Emotions are what got you banned from the school.
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: CornishCeltGuy
a reply to: redhorse
I'd go if they haven't said you can't.
You can go on paper, you're just choosing not to.
Thing is, if you go and there is a big scene where you get chucked out or something, was it worth it? Sure it might prove something when it comes to the school, but it's the last interaction the daughter has to have with them and it's a night she's earned.
What would that do to her graduation? Would she want that kind of thing to happen?
originally posted by: hombero
Sorry to say but your daughter and her friend weren't targeted for this type of bullying at random, perhaps you should ask them for the whole truth as to why they are in the crosshairs of this young man.
You may or may not be surprised about what they are holding back telling you, similar to what you could be holding back in your series of events...
originally posted by: research100
a reply to: Subrosabelow
how big is the graduating class???? do you really think the principal and highers ups at the school want to cause a disruption problem on that day...they want the school ie them to look good...nothing was issued telling you you can't go...so you should avoid the bully and the principle...be calm and enjoy your daughters day
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: Mike Stivic
I think it was likely less the boy than it was the parents. If they are rich and influential in a small town, never underestimate the power of that.
I've seen coaches play entire teams of "talents" who are anything but unless you look at their last names.
from now on I would only be allowed into the building after checking in at the office and with an escort of a responsible adult at all times.
originally posted by: Domo1
I'm going to be honest, it sounds like there are a few things missing from your story. The school's representatives don't seem to have a problem speaking with your husband throughout this whole thing...
from now on I would only be allowed into the building after checking in at the office and with an escort of a responsible adult at all times.
I've never heard of such a thing. It actually makes me question your narrative more. Now are you supposed to provide an escort, or are they saying they want you to be escorted by a staff member? Either way, it makes me wonder if perhaps you weren't a little more dramatic than you're letting on. I honestly can't blame a school these days for wanting all visitors to check in, and visitors who are in conflict to be escorted. Seems insulting, but schools are now worried about so many different eventualities and open to SO many new lawsuits. Society has gone crazy. I wouldn't take it personal. That's not true, I would, but I would "get it".
I believe this kid was being crappy to your daughter. I'm sorry for that. It seems ridiculous to act like that in high school. Always weirds me out to hear these stories, in my high school you would have gotten your ass beat if you were throwing things at girls, or mocking handicapped people, or bullying someone for no reason. All of that seems to happen now. I'm in my 30's and I went to an affluent high school.
If you are being completely honest and forthcoming, I would suggest getting a lawyer. Then going to the media under a lawyer's discretion.
Make a change. This sucks because everyone is going to know it's your daughter. Get her in a different district, it's still not going to protect her. You need to correct the BS.
I wish you all could move and start fresh and somehow take all her friends with her.
The cops said nothing can be done because of jurisdictional issues on school grounds.