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originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
a reply to: rickymouse
I think it is a mistake trying to judge those marriages years ago by today's standard.
My mother married at 17 but she also had a job bringing in income when she was 10 years old. She assisted in the kitchen and baby-sat for a wealthy family that owned a home on the beach. Times were different and children were far more mature than our children today.
I am in my mid sixties and even when I was a child, things were different. We were much more mature than young people today. We had responsibilities and much more was expected of us, and not just household chores. I grew up in the country so we worked in fields, worked on the docks, and many of us did odd jobs at local farms and businesses. We had to earn our own money of we wanted something, going to Mom and Dad and saying I want, got you the "People in hell want ice water" retort.
My work as a Forensic Nurse places me too up close and personal with young boys and girls that have been victims of inappropriate adult contact. It is not something that is taken lightly and it is a problem that is being aggressively fought, so by no means am I excusing any part of child abuse or child marriage. But we can't lump the marriages of young people today in the same category of the marriages of the past.
originally posted by: JAGStorm
a reply to: rickymouse
"I kind of think that our society went astray when woman's lib came into play"
People have a romanticized view of life back when, I'll admit sometimes I do too, but we cannot forgot it wasn't all roses back then. Women had very little voice, a lot of them were downright miserable. Many stayed in loveless abusive relationships because they had no other option. I'm no feminazi but I can assure you not everyone was happy back then, that's why thing changed. Talk to any ladies over 75 and a lot of them share the same view. Rape was perfectly acceptable back then too.
People could still have a one earner household now (yes it is harder now) but many don't want that, why is that? Maybe women wised up and realized that by always relying on men they would never be ok. Way way back in time my dad told me never count on a man, men die, men leave, men get sick. He said if I learned to take care of myself I would always be ok. This is the same advice I gave my daughters.