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originally posted by: Thirty6BelowZero
a reply to: luthier
Actually I forgot to add that if extra income is wanted or needed then both would work. My dad loved my sister and I as much as my mom did, he coached my baseball teams. He was also the reason I was raised a gentleman and never once raised my hand to a woman. I once bowed up to my mom when I was around 13 and he put me against the wall and told me if I was man enough to bow up to my mom then he'd most certainly give me the opportunity to fight him like a man. Mom couldn't have stopped me, I was already bigger than her. Without him, there's no telling where I'd be today. My kids run over their mom all the time but never attempt to run over me and we use the same discipline. A father figure is detrimental to most families. Again, the man and woman have different skill sets and both are needed in a family. Neither should be viewed as equal in all aspects.
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: Xtrozero
You forgot the empty self-esteem. They are fed all kinds of empty self-esteem.
"Oh look! Little Johnny handed in his spelling paper! He gets an A!" (No one will mention that little Johnny spelled more than half of the words wrong. He gets the A for handing it in.)
"Oh look! Little Suzie ran that race! She gets a blue ribbon like all the other kids!" (No one will mention that Suzie finished 15 out of 10 kids. She gets the blue like everyone else just for running the race.)
So they feel all great about themselves until they really have achieve something, and then they can't do it, and they can't cope and fall apart when they realize that last place isn't good enough in the real world.
Kids need to earn their self-esteem. They need to feel good based on real achievements they've earned themselves or else it's all just a house of cards ready to come crashing down the first time it's all challenged.
Are boys 'broken'?
originally posted by: burdman30ott6
a reply to: Wayfarer
I really need to provide statistics to prove women have 100% of all abortions performed? Really? Only women can experience pregnancy... biology is the support for my statement.
originally posted by: amazing
When we talk about Toxic Masculinity, you're talking about that ideal of the 80s movies. Stallone, Schwarzenegger, Willis, Ford, Norris...things are changing and most of our male rolemodels, at least in movies are becoming more fully formed and realistic and flawed.
I think, if anything, Toxic Maculinity is on the decline...overall. With a few exceptions.
originally posted by: seagull
a reply to: SprocketUK
More and more, I'm glad I grew up when I did--when I was allowed, even encouraged, to be a little boy and skin my knees, play in the creek, pick up snakes, etc...
originally posted by: EvillerBob
originally posted by: amazing
When we talk about Toxic Masculinity, you're talking about that ideal of the 80s movies. Stallone, Schwarzenegger, Willis, Ford, Norris...things are changing and most of our male rolemodels, at least in movies are becoming more fully formed and realistic and flawed.
I think, if anything, Toxic Maculinity is on the decline...overall. With a few exceptions.
Alternatively, modern movies are teaching boys to be angsty and self-doubting, rather than bold and adventurous.
It all depends on your perspective. If I had boys, I'd rather they want to be Indiana Jones that Edward flippin' Cullen (or whatever his name is).
originally posted by: amazing
Yeah, but that's two extremes. We'd all like them to be in the middle. Thoughtful, Assertive, Caring, Motivated, Kind, Strong, inquisitive, Self Confident, Well adjusted, outgoing etc.