posted on Feb, 17 2005 @ 06:28 AM
this time your assumption is WRONG!
any contempt I may be feeling is definately not directed at women, weather working or staying home....AND WORKING!
You know, it is possible for two parents to be working, and for the most part the kids can still be with one of their parents just about all day long.
I know this for a fact, I grew up in a household like this when I was young. BOTH PARENTS TOOK CARE OF ME!! And, it worked out in my own family
while I was working....it is possible...in most cases.
And, well, I would joke around at work as to how to me, it was a vaction, so I don't disagree with the idea that it's harder to chase down kids all
day than to play slave at work.....(and many times I was moving tons of material every day around the shop!)
But. well, this is where I found the problem to be....looking at it from your perspective....
my husband needed my assistance in bringing in the dough to meet the bills.....so I helped out... got a job, worked ten hours every day.....and then
came home to a messy house, dirty dishes, homework the kids needed help with, and hungry kids telling me how dad slept till noon or after, then got up
well, I would then proceed to do everything that absolutely had to be done in the house, and if I was lucky, maybe had enough time to catch four
hours sleep, before I was off and running again....weekends, I spent catching up on all my work, since I spent a good part of the week helping him
fullfill his responsibilities to the family....I played this game until my body finally collapsed, and now, well, I couldn't walk a few blocks needed
to go to the corner store!!!
Guess what....for all that hard work, My pay was less than what he got for sitting on his tailend on unemployment, and even then, it was sleep till
noon, get up and walk out.....
I've gone to Social service three times, the last time with an ankle in a splint, no insurance, no job, no income of my own, and well, they just
point to my husband's paycheck, we have they money they say....yet, I don't believe there is anything I can do legally to convince him to pay the
past due doctor bills, let alone any new ones I make....and Social Service was the ones who told me that!!!
Don't preach to me about the value of mothers, or accuse me of any contempt toward them!!! SOCIETY DOESN'T VALUE MOTHERHOOD!! OR CHILDREN FOR THAT
MATTER. They build giant housing units with paper thin walls for them to live next to neighbors who scream, yell, pound on walls, if one of the
little darlings even drops a broom. They often speak of them as if they are a curse to sinful women!!! Many seem to want them out of their sight,
and heaven forbid one should hear them!! Some will sit out in their yard all night long, drinking their beer, yelling obscenities that keep them up
all night, and then drag the kid to you when they hear the same obsenities they were screaming the night before come out of the kids' mouths. Many
of the fathers are gone, they jump from job to job handing in their notices as soon as social service finds their social security numbers on the
And, the mothers work....day in and day out, at home and at work....for a salary that doesn't even meet the bills! And, then they are called
leeches, or worse....
if there's any contempt, it's for this society...
oh yes, they really need people like you telling them that they are God's appointed childcare workers who should be home, tending their
children.....and blaming them for the screwed up mess society is in!
I think society would be less screwed up if we gave up on the traditional stereotypes can just assumed that we will have to work, and care for our
kids, and well, be prepared for the worse!
If a women has to work, she should be able to devout the same amount of time and energy as a man, have the same opportunities, and the means to
advance to the same kind of positions as her husband.....she CAN'T DO THAT unless he is willing and able to take on some of those
"responsibilities" that tradition dictate belong to the women......
genetics and science be damned!!!