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originally posted by: MarkOfTheV
a reply to: PraetorianAZ
Typically if someone comes forward with information like this they will have a few more supporting details than just hearsay.
I had a friend who was engaged... some dude called him up on the phone and told him that his fiancé was actually a prostitute. He identified himself and said that he hooked up with her as well. He was calling out of conscience.
My friend called BS until the dude provided a web address to the escort service where her picture was with testimonials and pricing.
They "talked it out" and he justified it somehow in his head, they are married with kids from different spouses than each other, and post relentlessly to Facebook about how glorious and lovey their relationship is.
originally posted by: Boadicea
originally posted by: Fools
You can download all deleted texts from her phone. It's rather simple to do.
I know of one person who did that... and is now divorced. For good reason. If my hubby EVER did that to me, he'd wish me cheating on him was his biggest problem. I would flat out tell him that if he cannot trust me after all these years, then he needs to go. That's not a marriage.
If she freaks out then whoever posted that was doing you a favor by exposing her.
No. I would expect any faithful and loyal wife to be absolutely "freaked out" if her hubby betrayed her trust and confidence in such a way. And especially a wife who sets her phone on the counter right next to her husband's and makes no effort to hide either the phone or what's in/on it. If my hubby came to me in the same situation, I'd hand him my phone and say, "See for yourself." Just like the OP's wife did. No reason to be suspicious... every reason to trust her. And if he still didn't trust me, then I would know he's the problem. Not me.
If his wife was ok with him seeing the phone as it is, she would also be ok in letting him see what she deleted.
If she has done nothing wrong and loves him then she would agree to it to let him know for sure that she is on the level.
originally posted by: Fools
a reply to: Boadicea
If I were in this situation - even if I was the woman - I would have no problem letting them check my deleted texts. Why would it really matter if I wanted to retain trust and show that I was on the up and up?
I think the only problem with it would be that he might see her dogging him to her pals or whatever - maybe not cheating, but talking gossip with pals about him. Might hurt his feelings.
BTW, congrats on all the years. Very admirable. I am coming up on 17 this summer.