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Someone anonymously posted about my wife online

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posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 07:02 AM
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a reply to: PraetorianAZ

you should not allow your faith in your spouse to waiver due only to an anonymous accusation with zero evidence.

it would be different if you had been noticing things before hand. poorly excused absences, strange phone calls, loss of interest in affection, body language that isnt platonic around strangers, etc etc, but if you've not had any reason to suspect other then this one anon on the internet, then its bull#.

otherwise if you do feel there are other reasons to suspect, then hire a private investigator, and accept his findings, even if he finds nothing.




posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 07:42 AM
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Would it be even remotely possible to bring this to the attention of the school administrators?? They may have tools available to them to find out and remove such degradation from the social site? They may even have investigators available to find out WHO posted such a terrible thing...and hey, if her phone is right next to yours (as it should be) on the counter and she's sitting with YOU at the dinner table, in the L.room, etc? Honey, she's NOT cheating, but I definitely would have a talk with your Best Friend about his GF...either she wants YOU, or she wants your wife...I'd tread carefully there....the really sad part of all of this? You are looking at your wife differently now-and you should not, I can only imagine how SHE must feel about all of this, Now....go do EXACTLY what you had planned for her for Valentine's Day....become so tight with you girl, it pisses the original poster off even MORE!! When a wedge is introduced, become so tight the wedge can't come between you....Good luck OP...



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 07:53 AM
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You can download all deleted texts from her phone. It's rather simple to do. Tell her that. If she is tech savvy then she probably set the phone back to default. If you see that she has done that then she is/was hiding information. If she freaks out then whoever posted that was doing you a favor by exposing her.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:01 AM
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This passive aggressive attack is a woman-it's what women do.

Being she used an older photo-could it possibly be a spiteful-angry family member? I've certainly got my share of unhappy campers throughout my family.

Wherever this nasty post showed up, you should be able to contact the administrator of the site and get it removed. If that doesn't work-find a h**ker.

A word of caution-sorry-but a very telling sign that a spouse is cheating, is that they become extra affectionate to you.

True or not-time will tell. Keep communications open with her as well as your eyes and ears and try not to dwell on the negative-you will only hurt yourself.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:21 AM
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originally posted by: eletheia


originally posted by: Raxoxane
I want both you and your wife to ponder very seriously about the girl who found the photo,something feels very off to me,re the friend.Just a feeling.




Yes!! and is she trying to break up a happy relationship, because she is

jealous because she isn't in one and hasn't been in one for a long time ........OR

does she have her eye on your wife if you break up?



ANY WAY Don't bite!!!


No way I honestly don't think this is the right direction at all.

To clarify a little my best friend since highschool's gf found the post when she was doing a social media check on someone her company is considering hiring. (Not my GF)

She happened upon it by coincidence and she knew she had to tell her BF (my best friend) and he told me.

There is absolutely no chance anything was going on between my friend and my wife or vise versa or any mix in between.

I am honestly thinking a co-worker or parent still at this point.



Sorry I don't want to post the link and such but I don't want this spreading more than it already has. The last thing we need is this in more places on the internet.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:29 AM
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I really don't see it being my friends GF as the culprit. If you knew her and know what she does for a living it would make sense that she would eventually stumble upon a post like this.

It seems really strange and ransom I know its a weird "Coincidence" and I am a conspiracy theorist but I believe my friend and his GF on how they came up with the post.

And if you saw how they approached me about this and told me how they came across it you would know it was just random.


As I said before I am really leaning towards a coworker or parent of hers.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:33 AM
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originally posted by: Fools
You can download all deleted texts from her phone. It's rather simple to do.


I know of one person who did that... and is now divorced. For good reason. If my hubby EVER did that to me, he'd wish me cheating on him was his biggest problem. I would flat out tell him that if he cannot trust me after all these years, then he needs to go. That's not a marriage.


If she freaks out then whoever posted that was doing you a favor by exposing her.


No. I would expect any faithful and loyal wife to be absolutely "freaked out" if her hubby betrayed her trust and confidence in such a way. And especially a wife who sets her phone on the counter right next to her husband's and makes no effort to hide either the phone or what's in/on it. If my hubby came to me in the same situation, I'd hand him my phone and say, "See for yourself." Just like the OP's wife did. No reason to be suspicious... every reason to trust her. And if he still didn't trust me, then I would know he's the problem. Not me.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:34 AM
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Parents get crazy, man. You mentioned you can think of maybe one of the parents of the kids at her school who would want to mess with her. That seems like the most likely scenario to me. I'm a teacher and seriously, parents get absolute psycho over their kids. They can get nasty! Was there an issue with one of the kids at her school?



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:49 AM
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originally posted by: KansasGirl
Parents get crazy, man. You mentioned you can think of maybe one of the parents of the kids at her school who would want to mess with her. That seems like the most likely scenario to me. I'm a teacher and seriously, parents get absolute psycho over their kids. They can get nasty! Was there an issue with one of the kids at her school?


There has been several. She is a special needs preschool teacher so all the children in her class have IEP's and are receiving free "daycare" from the state because their child has some kind of disability (Downs, autism, speech, etc...)

If their child no longer qualifies to have an IEP then the children's parents must pay for these services. Well, my wife is the one who writes the IEP's and decides who needs one and who doesn't.

The post about her was in December so I am thinking maybe a parent who didn't like the fact their child is doing better in life and no longer needs an IEP and was getting booted off the free program.

But this is all speculation.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:54 AM
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originally posted by: KansasGirl
Parents get crazy, man. You mentioned you can think of maybe one of the parents of the kids at her school who would want to mess with her. That seems like the most likely scenario to me. I'm a teacher and seriously, parents get absolute psycho over their kids. They can get nasty! Was there an issue with one of the kids at her school?


What makes me think more that it is a parent is they never mention me by name or mention any names(except for my wife). And in the nasty post, they make several suggestions to watch your children's fathers around her. Kinda like how a parent would speak if they were mad at a school and didn't want other parents children to go there.

This is what makes me think its a parent. It seems they are attacking her career and not so much her marriage. If the person really wanted to ruin her marriage they could have easily looked me up and provided me with evidence or something.

But instead, they posted to a crap talking website that literally makes its bread and butter on people anonymously slandering others.
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posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 09:23 AM
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a reply to: PraetorianAZ

Bingo. Some wacko parent is pissed off at her and this is what they're doing to get whatever "revenge" they feel they deserve. I'll say it again, parents get crazy about their kids if they think some injustice or unfairness has happened. They just stop thinking straight.

Whomever posted that mess is clearly a miserable person, whatever the reason for the post.

The person who posted it needs to be made to feel terrified that they are going to be reported to the authorities for slander.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 09:46 AM
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Well start backtracking to see where she has been...Does she have any enemies that would post this? I can't see why someone would post something out of the blue...maybe it's a slight at you, are you in a position of management? Have either of you sued anyone or are having neighbor issues? Are you in an apartment and possibly have looney next to you? Maybe you are loud tenants...just spit balling here...



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 10:03 AM
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a reply to: PraetorianAZ
The way you worded it (if accurate) sounds to me like classic disgruntled jealous co-worker, like they were either slighted at work and hold a grudge, or are just psychotic and want to destroy her because she got promoted ahead.

But, I'd also be wary of the best friend's gf. Just in case.



reply to: SR1TX

We cannot build bricks without clay.

Not true, this colombian dude I know sells bricks without clay! Hella expensive though for some reason.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 10:52 AM
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a reply to: PraetorianAZ
Remember reading something similar some time ago, I believe you have the right to ask the webpage owner to pull off that crap...



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 01:09 PM
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I have a little insight, coming from a marriage that was ended due to cheating.

The key, is body language. When you brought it up, did she distance herself from you when explaining that nothing was going on? That is a sign that something is being hidden. Did eye contact change when you started bringing everything up? If there was/is constant eye contact throughout normal conversation that changed to an aversion of eye contact, or vice versa, that is also an indication that something is being concealed. Another tell tale sign is the amount of movement. Lies are also given away by "over-relaxation". Basically, it's a subconscious thing people do, in trying to remain calm - They'll stop moving their hands/arms, stop fidgeting, etc. Another give away is the person hiding their mouth or eyes when replying to whatever question you ask - another subconscious act to try and "hide the lie" so to speak.

If none of these tells are present, then you're good to go. if they are, then you have a serious problem.

I've used some of these observational techniques to catch a few of my exes in their lies, busting both for cheating - one ex girlfriend, and the other my ex wife.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 01:33 PM
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Do you possibly have an alter ego that you are unaware of?
a reply to: PraetorianAZ



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 01:49 PM
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originally posted by: PraetorianAZ
No, it was not on this site but there is a site that shall not be named where someone posted a really nasty paragraph saying that my wife has been cheating on me for many years with married men and that she finds her men through her school (where she is a special needs teacher). In the photo, they used a really old picture of her one that was not made private from back in the day.

Of course, the post is completely anonymous so the only way to find out who said these things would be with a subpoena from a court for the name or IP address. This could cost thousands but would it be worth it to know why and what.

I brought the post to the attention of my wife and she denies cheating or anything and asserts that she loves me to death.

I honestly don't really know what to think at this point. Everything in my heart and gut is telling me she is not cheating on me. But now I can't help but shake this tiny thought of what if.

Everything in our relationship has been great. I would actually say better than ever. And the weirdest part is my wife doesn't go anywhere. Except to work. When she gets home her phone goes on the kitchen counter and it sits next to mine for the next 12 hours because we're married and lame and have no friends. So she is never texting anybody. We literally don't even hangout with other people.

She even offered me her phone to look through. I have never needed to look through her phone and I didn't start today.


Yet she is now in bed and here I am awake thinking WHAT IF?





Dude she's banging other bros, get over it. Never trust the government or women but especially women who work for the government.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 04:35 PM
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Hmm this is quite interesting for sure. The detective in me really want to help you out but I can totally understand where you do not want to post the link to where it was posted. Like some on here have already stated, it's very likely you would have noticed a change in behavior of some sort. I know it's hard just to forget about it but if what you say in your original OP is true then you have nothing to worry about.



posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:01 PM
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originally posted by: PraetorianAZ

originally posted by: Tellurian

a reply to: PraetorianAZ
finds her men through her school (where she is a special needs teacher)


could be one the kids from the school ?



SHe teaches preschool. But I do suspect a parent perhaps




I have seen people, including, coworkers at school outright lie about others to better their position if both were going for same position, and I’ve also seen people gaslight people to get their positions.

Or maybe a parent.

Trust me you would have known; she would be going out with “friends” a lot. You said yourself you’re both always at home when you’re not working.

Also, her position probably barely gives her time to eat lunch. I kid you not, I actually stopped drinking coffee before work when I worked at the school, because I really didn’t have time to go to the bathroom. So I restricted my fluids til after work.
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posted on Feb, 14 2018 @ 08:15 PM
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Typically if someone comes forward with information like this they will have a few more supporting details than just hearsay.

I had a friend who was engaged... some dude called him up on the phone and told him that his fiancé was actually a prostitute. He identified himself and said that he hooked up with her as well. He was calling out of conscience.

My friend called BS until the dude provided a web address to the escort service where her picture was with testimonials and pricing.

They "talked it out" and he justified it somehow in his head, they are married with kids from different spouses than each other, and post relentlessly to Facebook about how glorious and lovey their relationship is.




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