posted on Feb, 9 2018 @ 04:55 PM
originally posted by: knoxie
a reply to: howtonhawky
what kind of proff do you need?? if it isn't on film, it didn't happen?? wtf.
hold on dude, before you hit me, let me whip out my phone here so i can video tape it.
fyi, he abused BOTH wives, which shows a history, which is why he wasn't given a full clearnace. he shouldn't be in the white house, period.
Don't waste your breath. That's the thing, for many people there is no proof good enough and even if you do accomplish that and have iron clad, no
argument proof that a woman was abused then, well, it's her own fault anyway. She shouldn't have pushed him. She shouldn't have provoked him. She
should have just done what he said. Most women don't report abuse because A. She likely won't be believed. and B. Even if she is believed the first
question most people ask her is "What did you do?" Not as in "What did you do about it", but "What did YOU do to MAKE him beat you".
My mother was beaten on the regular and when it shifted to me (I was two), and she went to her parents for help, that's what they asked her. So my
childhood was marked by abuse toward me and witnessing it toward my mother. I got a few cracked ribs and regular bruises but meh, it was my mothers
fault apparently, so everyone just looked away.
I was beaten by my ex husband and when I went for help, I was told I was hitting myself for attention, or I was exaggerating, and the beatings weren't
bad enough for me to really be complaining. After three years of escalating violence, when he choked me out and slammed my head repeatedly into an
iron grate I had enough. But no, I didn't report it to the cops. I didn't ask for help, because by then, I knew there was no help coming. It was a
humiliating and counter-productive waste of time.
*edited to add*
Oh, and never forget option C. Even if you are believed and they also aren't willing to blame you, then you are still just an whiny, attention whore
for talking about it.
edit on 9-2-2018 by redhorse because: (no reason given)
edit on 9-2-2018 by redhorse because: (no reason given)