originally posted by: MerkabaMeditation
I feel that marriage is the last legal form of slavery... I would like to know what you guys & gals think. Thanks.
Marriage is a relic from the past.
It had more to do with protecting the woman, than about telling someone what to do.
Old societies considered a woman "lost something valuable" when she lost her virginity.
So, allowing men to have their way with a woman, then move on to other pastures, was considered bad and unfair to the females.
The men generally did the hard work, farming or hunting or trades, that enabled the family to be fed, so the woman needed to be bonded to a man to get
to "eat" too. Also, women could not "own property", and couldn't vote, or do all the things the men were entitled to do.
So, the arrangement of marriage allowed the woman to "trade" her body to the man, for his pleasure, for the "comforts and security" in return. She
generally did the "house work", cooking, cleaning, and sowing clothes. And marriage also kept the man around to look after the kids.
It was a good structure for the old time societies.
In modern times, it's hard to see the benefits of marriage, because all the old "reasons" have disappeared.
Today, people have sex readily, and don't care much about "virginity".
Women work, and don't need a man for "comforts and security."
Everyone has less kids, some couples have none, and when they have it's typically just one kid.
And the kids don't listen to their parents, don't respect them, and teens do their own thing anyway.
Marriage is practically meaningless today. Even gays and lesbians can get married. Whatever it means to them, is a complete mystery. In some parts of
the world a man can take many wives. King Solomon had 800 wives. Mormons can have something like 21 wives, and Muslims are allowed 4 wives. The idea
of 1 woman having many husbands has not caught on anywhere yet, but it's an "innovation" that is sure to happen some time in the future, as people
"chase" the idea of ideal marriage, according to their own imagination and desires.
Today, it's best to think of marriage as being like a "corporate partnership". A group of people get together and form a "union" for the purpose of
"comforts and security". They pool their financial resources, which allows them to buy that fancy house, drive nice fancy cars, and eat good food all
the time, even if one or more of them lose their jobs temporarily etc..They can raise kids if they want, or not.
They can even have a "platonic marriage", where "sex" is not an option, and it's only a union for "financial security". So, a group of "monks" can
marry each other to enable them to pool resources to run a monastery.
For example, all "nuns" in a nunnery usually pledge themselves to "Jesus", so they are all brides of Jesus, and may even wear a "Ring of Christ" on
their marriage finger to tell others who their husband is, etc..
Today, marriage is whatever you want it to be.
But, since it's a voluntary institution, which you "chose", i.e. whether you want to be married or not, and divorce is easy and common, you can't say
that marriage is anything like slavery. The slave couldn't just walk away from his master, the way a spouse can today.
In some parts of the world, like in the Jewish Religion, divorce is as simple as saying "I divorce thee" three times, and you're free again.