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originally posted by: eNumbra
originally posted by: luthier
a reply to: eNumbra
Perhaps you should be more clear and take your own advise.
Like this person probably wasn't a victim and it wasn't a gray area.
I mean do we all just start blaming the world for own bad choices? Jesus..it's pretty clear. Don't be so star struck you can't control yourself in the situation and hope body language which obviously wasn't forceful enough to push someone away is really an argument.
Just because you think the world is black and white doesn’t mean I’m not being clear. You can make bad choices and still end up a victim.
originally posted by: Xtrozero
Maybe, but I'm saying I haven't seen a woman that gives a blowjob to just get it over with because they do not want to do anything...
originally posted by: ThirdEyeofHorus
Theres a reason why women had chaperones in the 1800's. It was to prevent this sort of thing from happening. Remember A Room With A View, where the guy kisses the girl in a poppy field and it was a big deal, though it looks innocent to you and me, it was a big deal in those days and constituted a scandal. A single kiss. The sexual revolution made casual sex an ordinary thing. We really do need to revise our ideas and go back to something a little more modest in this area. Someone else posted that women should cover up more. Hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.
originally posted by: melatonin
originally posted by: Xtrozero
Maybe, but I'm saying I haven't seen a woman that gives a blowjob to just get it over with because they do not want to do anything...
Just like women never fake orgasms to just get it over with because they really can't be bothered and wanna sleep, but they have been pestered into acting as a sex object for partners.
haha.
I once let a guy jack off in my presence as I said no and he couldn't handle being cockblocked. He was gonna cry and cry until he puked - it was his right to get some sexual satisfaction, you see! Easier to just let him shoot his load to see him on his way. Could have been way worse (:
Of course, it wasn't enough to just shoot his load. He had to humiliate me just a little - I'll leave that to your imagination. I never consented to that part, but was just glad to see the back of him. Again, could have been worse (:
Perhaps think of the fact that many, if not most, of the women and girls in your life have to navigate these 'could have been worse' situations . Sad, really - and it doesn't reflect on the women and girls.
originally posted by: toysforadults
a reply to: melatonin
I think men get into uncomfortable sexual situations as well.
We have a very sexually repressed culture and our lack of honest conversation around the topic nakes it very hard to navigate the waters especially when you are young.
Never everyone is a predator some people are really dumb.
Our culture is very flawed.
originally posted by: sapien82
a reply to: toysforadults
agreed open dialogue and honest communication between the sexes is the way forward as one !
hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube but not hard to put your penis back in your trousers !
lets be honest with ourselves men and lets be honest with the women we choose to associate with !
there is also a huge weight of males speaking to males about their emotions and how they see the world,
we males need to discuss between ourselves as well without being "macho" and caliming its only gays who speak about their feelings.
We have emotions for a reason and we also have the ability to express ourselves for a reason and if more males start talking about life to each other we break down the cultural rules of "men " no opening up about life . Not sharing their emotions for fear of being perceived as weaker by "alpha" males in society who only care about their muscles their car, their team , their beer etc
originally posted by: toysforadults
a reply to: melatonin
I think men get into uncomfortable sexual situations as well.
originally posted by: ThirdEyeofHorus
The media has so sexualized society.... it's so sad. Even with the revolution in spiritual understanding, we get bombarded with images of sexy women showing us the impossible ideal that only wealthy women with a gaggle of handmaidens and hair stylists can achieve...... the rest of us have to suffer with our every day looks. Amazing that the fallen angels thought we were beautiful without even makeup. But it says in Enoch that they taught us how to wear it.
originally posted by: sapien82
agreed open dialogue and honest communication between the sexes is the way forward as one!
About a week later, the two went out to dinner. The date continued at Ansari's apartment afterward, where, according to the woman, she was repeatedly "pressured" by Ansari to have intercourse, which they didn't, and to perform oral sex, which she did.
originally posted by: toysforadults
Also, "I felt pressured" isn't the same as, "I had no choice" to me. If you felt pressured and didn't put your foot down then who's really at fault?