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"In September of last year, I met a woman at a party. We exchanged numbers. We texted back and forth and eventually went on a date. We went out to dinner, and afterwards we ended up engaging in sexual activity, which by all indications was completely consensual," Ansari wrote in a statement obtained by CNN on Sunday.
"The next day, I got a text from her saying that although 'it may have seemed okay,' upon further reflection, she felt uncomfortable. It was true that everything did seem okay to me, so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned," Ansari's statement continued. "I took her words to heart and responded privately after taking the time to process what she had said."
I am personally staying away from any woman who leans left at all. I just can't risk it.
“Last night might’ve been fun for you, but it wasn’t for me,” she responded. “You ignored clear nonverbal cues; you kept going with advances. You had to have noticed I was uncomfortable.” He replied with an apology.
Read Grace’s text message again.
Put in other words: I am angry that you weren’t able to read my mind.
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: toysforadults
Thaaaats great, but not what I was after by posting what I did.
What I am after is an improvement of your understanding of the matters, which is basically flawed from the get go. The event in question is not even the issue here, the issue that needs work here is your approach to it.
At last, she uttered the word “no” for the first time during their encounter, to Mr. Ansari’s suggestion that they have sex in front of a mirror. He said: “‘How about we just chill, but this time with our clothes on?’”
“You ignored clear nonverbal cues; you kept going with advances. You had to have noticed I was uncomfortable.”
originally posted by: eNumbra
originally posted by: toysforadults
Also, "I felt pressured" isn't the same as, "I had no choice" to me. If you felt pressured and didn't put your foot down then who's really at fault?.
The person applying the pressure is still at fault.