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A feminime pronoun needs to be used on someone who seems female. Otherwise its fake. This causes me anxiety because i cant lie to myself.
originally posted by: continuousThunder
a reply to: bigfatfurrytexan
questions for you to think about;
what does 'seems female' actually mean?
standards and perception of both masculinity and femininity are different in different cultures, have changed drastically over the years, and will continue to do so. who is the final arbiter of what is and is not?
where is the line drawn, who draws it, and how do you measure it?
Cowboy posted after you about calling you ma'am, and i'm assuming it was a joke but it illustrates my point really well - you've got a given image of What Is A Woman in your head, but how many women have short hair and are still definitely women? how many women do you see in pants, or without pierced ears, or even with distinct facial hair?
Gender is tricky because there are lots of things we think of as signifiers, but none of them taken on their own are absolutes.
is it not simpler to accept that there will always be outliers who are nevertheless absolutely a part of a given group?
can't we just exercise a little empathy and let people have their dang pronoun?
The scent isnt matching the eyes, basically.
All im asking is that i not be forced to lie to myself just to make you happy I didnt ask you to insult me as your response.
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: RainbowPhoenix
I would also add that if violence is your response to conversation you arent helping your case.
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: RainbowPhoenix
You know nothing of phermones. Not hormones...phermones. You dont actually smell them. They are recieved via chemical sensors (its believed the VNO plays a role).
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: RainbowPhoenix
Its not weak. It is me choosing to be internally consistent
Trans people have surgeries to address this lack of internal consistency. I wouldnt think it would be so hard for you to understand.
It is me choosing to be internally consistent
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: RainbowPhoenix
Your telling me that gender reassignment has nothing to do with creating a psychological improvement?
Its just cuz you wanted to?
Nor presume why i choose the words i do.