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So done with selfish relatives who never visit, never call, never help with this. But they are the first ones who want something from this person or, worse, have an opinion on how it should all be handled. They're like vultures.
Is there any use asking/telling other family to step up?
originally posted by: Vector99
a reply to: kosmicjack
I would suggest finding an in-home care service. Find someone super friendly that the elderly relative will likely get along really well with. Start out with 1 day a week or every other week that the care giver comes by for 8 or so hours to help out and just spend time with them. Eventually the elderly relative will likely want the care person around more often, and it can become more full-time.
That way it doesn't seem life changing to your relative, and they don't lose their sense of personal worthiness. Ease into the situation with baby steps.