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originally posted by: antiantonym
a reply to: Bluesma
This is tough because everyone is damaged in different ways. I didn't specifically write this in the original post, but the particular damage I was talking about is becoming narcissistic, egocentric, and developing a feeling of being entitled to special treatment. I wrote the following on the third page of this thread, but it was ignored. I hope you'll comment on it.
I want to make it clear that I'm not complaining about any of this or "bashing women." I'm just trying to gain an understanding.
If a boy grows up looking like Justin Bieber then it will probably cause him to develop some narcissism. That's similar between the sexes.
Let's face it; it's not nearly the same overall. Gender roles are an important factor as I'll explain below.
A gorgeous girl is treated better by everyone basically. A gorgeous boy gets treated a lot better than the average boy, but it's not so much better than the average boy that it's necessarily life-changing.
Here's a metaphor that explains how I see it:
If the average boy skins his knee, someone washes it off, and he's told to be more careful. The gorgeous boy gets the same treatment.
If an average-looking girl skins her knee, she gets it washed off with a bandage put on it. She also gets a warm hug.
If a gorgeous girl skins her knee, she gets it washed off with a bandage put on it with a warm hug. She also gets enough cookies and candy to make her feel all better.
Imagine that metaphorical situation being repeated for most of the gorgeous girl's life. How can that not produce narcissism and other problems?
Socially desirable attributions increased and the attribution of psychological disturbance decreased with targets' increasing attractiveness.The attribution of negative or egocentric qualities increased with targets' increasing attractiveness, except for targets of moderately high attractiveness, who were described as significantly less egocentric than targets of average and very high attractiveness. Targets of moderately high attractiveness were the overwhelming favorites for interaction
originally posted by: ketsuko
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Are you talking about a woman who is beautiful to everyone else or is convinced of her own beauty?