a reply to: Lolliek
A good measure, in a nation which has some sort of discretion and understanding of psychology, would be the legal age of consent.
In the UK, its sixteen. I think that's a sensible age, given that below it, far too few have any idea what they want for lunch, leave alone what they
want in any deeper sense, and older than that age, far too many are so headstrong and willfully belligerent about what they want in ALL respects, that
to get in their way would be like sticking a marshmallow wall in front of a tank battalion.
Of course, with any generalised rule, there are going to be exceptions, but only in one respect. There may be those above the legal age of consent,
who remain intellectually incompetent to make decisions for themselves as to how they are going to act in any given situation, what they do and do not
want, and may remain that way until they are in their dotage.
But there is no excuse or unusual level of advancement, either physical or mental, which makes a young person, less than sixteen years of age,
capable of making proper choices about what they do and do not want done with their bodies. I do not care whether a fourteen year old girl or boy has
been teaching anatomy to university students since they were eight, I do not care how many exams they pass, or even if they have written a score of
scholarly articles and books... There has never been a person who was younger than sixteen, who should have been having intercourse, risking
pregnancy, forming that sort of relationship with another human being, regardless of their individual advancement level in any regard.
Why? Because regardless of intellectual or physical advancement, a person can only have had so much EXPERIENCE of life by that age, no more, and no
less, regardless of their intelligence or physical attributes, and until that amount of experience has been gained, no person, even blessed with all
the information in the world, should be in a position of having to figure their way through the thinking process necessary to work out the right way
I also think there is a certain point at which age gap must be considered. If two people, of sixteen years of age, decide they are in love with one
another, and want to get busy, well, thats people being young and dumb, and may have repercussions that neither party are ready for, but thats their
lesson to learn. If one person of twenty years age is sniffing around after a person of sixteen though, at that point it might be time to get out the
pitchforks and the highly flammable liquids, and have us a damned bonfire.
Now, as the age of the youngest person in a potential pairing increases, the gap between them and a potential partner can increase, WITHOUT things
being morally objectionable. It might still be considered strange, unorthodox by some, but none the less, not morally objectionable.
In my estimation, however, the point at which gaps cease to be a problem, is the point at which the youngest person in the pairing is in their mid
twenties, not their later teens.