posted on Dec, 7 2017 @ 09:18 AM
a reply to: Phage
Of course it matters... both true allegations and the false accusations. The question -- our challenge -- is how to deal with it.
On a criminal level, it's no different than any other crime: What can be proven in a court of law. And that's tricky, because such crimes almost
always happen behind closed doors with no witnesses. And it's easy enough for anyone to say, "But she said "yes." It's almost impossible to prove
one way or another. Even worse is the "But I was just expressing my attraction to her... What? Now men can't even show women they're interested???"
Because violating a woman's body is the way to show interest... yeah, right.
But on a purely practical level, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and I'd say it's more important to stop the abuse to begin with than
to prosecute after the fact. And that means educating both boys and girls (and, apparently, men and women) to what is and is not appropriate
behavior. To say I've been absolutely sickened by some of the downright abusive and misogynistic comments made right here on ATS is an
understatement. I was taught -- and I taught my daughter -- to speak out loud and proud and immediately... and make damn sure anyone and everyone
within a stone's throw will hear you. The men who do this are cowards at heart. They count on women being too nice or too afraid or too something to
challenge them. Make it personal, make it hurt, and make it public, and they'll leave you the hell alone.
They also count on other men -- good men -- being afraid of false accusations that will ruin their lives to protect them from their own bad behavior.
Good men that would be absolutely horrified to know what the bad men do behind closed doors to their mothers, sisters, daughters, wives, girlfriends,
This really isn't rocket science. As long as there are people making pathetic excuses for bad behavior, it will continue. The first step is to stop
accepting pathetic excuses.