60% of woman cheat on their significant other

Just watched a news report on CBS News Sunday Morning which said 60% of woman cheat and that the percentage of men is much higher. The number one reason for woman....not getting attention at home in the form of holding, kissing, not being made to feel desirable, pretty and/or sexy. I find hte whole thing appalling! If you are so un-happy, miserable, or ignored that you would cheat, then leave! Cheating is unforgivable to me. I wonder about the character of a human being that can look in the face of the person that they sleep with every night, the person they see at the table everyday, the person they are supposed to be the closet to of all others, their partner in life....and lie, connive, and sneak around......as I said, if your that unhappy, leave...and that old stupidity about staying for the kids.....that's one of the most ridiculous things I've heard. Children learn about relationships from parents, that's not a good way to raise children.

If my woman ever cheated, I would play stupid, take her on a trip to South America, sell her to a brothel for being a whore and leave her there.

Ok....but you'd have you have to find out about it first

I really do agree with you. I would not cheat. If I were so miserable I would leave. I never cheated on a boyfriend(and it wasn't like there weren't MANY chances) and I wouldn't cheat on my husband.

Children seek out mates that are similar to their parents. They parent the children the way they were parented. They also re-enact the way their parents behaved. Of course, some people do not, but this is a generalization

It is really sad that 60% of women cheat. I tend to think women are above that. I would love to believe it. I guess I will remain in the 40% who do not

And I am such a bad liar, I would tell on myself. I couldn't go home and look at my husband at night. No way.

With the new low pants law, I don't see what's stopping them from bringing back the scarlett letter...


For the past two weeks, good day live, and someother morning news shows have had authors and wives who talk about cheating on their loved ones...

I think they are tyring to start the ball rolling on something without being too obvious..

There is a plan for something or all this agenda pushing wouldn't be happening.

STAY TUNED!

[edit on 13-2-2005 by TrueLies]

I saw a program on this, interesting. If I remember correctly it stated that as many as 1 in 20 men are not the fathers of their children and do not know it!

It went into detail about how womens attractions change during different times of their cycles, note though that as all things it does not mean ALL women. It stated that during their peak time for breeding attraction tends to go towards masculine rugged types, when not at the peak they tend to go for slightly more feminine attributes. Nature is an amazing thing. This can account for some of the cheating. As for men cheating well I guess it may be due to the natural urge to spread their DNA, like any animal. Not that it should be used as an excuse of course.

I have to say i am suprised by the figure of 60%, sounds very high to me.

Being cheated on can destroy people, I have seen it. Breaking the trust, finding out you have been living an unreality can be heartbreaking.

Just for the record, I have only cheated once and that was when I was fourteen and that was a quick kiss by the bus stop. I am a good boy now

Originally posted by Kriz_4


Being cheated on can destroy people, I have seen it. Breaking the trust, finding out you have been living an unreality can be heartbreaking.

Yes it is! My first husband was a cheater, I was very, very young, he was older. He cheated with my cousins, "friends" and everyone else....people kept telling me and I wouldn't believe.....till I caught him with my little sister!

Why do you think I have all those webcams installed at home ?

60 percent seems high for females, but I think that in a soceity without burkas and more freedom of choice and mobillity for females, they don't turn out to be THAT much different from men......



[edit on 13-2-2005 by Countermeasures]

Originally posted by LadyV
Yes it is! My first husband was a cheater, I was very, very young, he was older. He cheated with my cousins, "friends" and everyone else....people kept telling me and I wouldn't believe.....till I caught him with my little sister!

While I do not condone his actions I certainly understand them and sympathize.

Originally posted by Kriz_4
It stated that during their peak time for breeding attraction tends to go towards masculine rugged types, when not at the peak they tend to go for slightly more feminine attributes.

Oh boy, thats me to a tee!

I just said on another thread it's like I have two personalites... One like the rugged look, theother like the softer well taken care of look... funny.

Nature is an amazing thing. This can account for some of the cheating.

There's the excuse for women that cheat!!

"What, I couldn't help it, nature made me do it!"

I have to say i am suprised by the figure of 60%, sounds very high to me.

Yes it does seem very high, I wonder if women's lib has anything to do with this? were the stats lower back then?

Being cheated on can destroy people, I have seen it. Breaking the trust, finding out you have been living an unreality can be heartbreaking.

I've never been cheated on, but i've cheated so I don't know how it feels, however, I know the feelings because i've had to watch the person be heartbroken. Makes you feel really #ty inside, nauseating in fact..

Just for the record, I have only cheated once and that was when I was fourteen and that was a quick kiss by the bus stop. I am a good boy now

[edit on 13-2-2005 by TrueLies]

Aretha Franklin said it all years ago...

"If you want a do-right woman, you have to have a do-right man." Listen to the whole song, and it echos a lot of what was said about needing attention and love.

A few comments on this statistic:

1) What defines cheating? Is it having lunch with another man? Going out with another man? or sexual intercourse? Emotional cheating or physical cheating? Men and women view these differently. I personally would be more hurt if my boyfriend had an intimate non-sexual relationship with another woman than if he was caught in bed with someone that he had no emotional connection to at all. Women may view a single kiss as cheating, while men might consider it nothing up to the actual act of intercourse. A man I was engaged to a few years ago was so into his porn I considered it cheating - it effected our relationship and caused as much pain as if he was sleeping with someone else. We're no longer engaged.

2) To the person who said "if you're not happy, leave": it isn't always that easy. You can be desperately unfulfilled and unhappy and still love the person you are with. Yes, you can love someone and still end up cheating on them. Emotions and the need to feel wanted and loved are very strong sometimes, and not everyone is strong enough to make the right decision. I don't think cheating is right, but it happens, and without being in a situation where you had to make a decision like every person who has done it, it's hard to know what they had been through. People marry and are together for many reasons only one of which is love. Many people are in abusive or loveless situations, and finding someone else while staying in a marraige may keep them alive.

3) How many of these 'cheaters' did so with the knowledge and approval of their spouse? How many were doing it for "revenge"?

4) Did this statistic include people who were still married, but seperated?

5) Statistics can say whatever you want them to. That statistic of 1 in 20 men not being the father of their children... was this men who thought they were the father, or all men in a family unit with children including step children and adoptive children? Of course 1 in 20 men are not the father of the child they were raising if they joined a family already in progress.

Ahh well.. we can be shocked and appauled, but it isn't going to change. Probably never has and never will. We can be happy with those we are with and trust them to the best of our abilities. We can choose to be as honorable as we can within our relationships and marraiges. We can have the dignity to not cheat, and the dignity to forgive those who do or dignity to leave if we can.

Edit for spelling/grammar...

[edit on 13-2-2005 by RedBalloon]

That's a very good post redballoon.

Your right about cheating in that people will leave one relationship and sneak to another so they can get whatever they were lacking at home.

Women need lot's of attention and to know they are loved.

If they ain't gettin it at home you can be sure they will be getting it somewhere else.

Even if it isn't real love, it's still attention. It lets them know that they are still desirable and beautiful, the attention makes them feel better, even if it is short term gratification.

I think women cheat because they are looking for someone to make them feel special and appreciated. A smaller percentage for sex and control

I thin men cheat as an ego boost. A woman makes them feel young and hot and wanted. They go with it. Also some just for sex and control.

Affairs are a symptom of a problem in the relationship, not the problem itself. Most of the time, there are very deep issues there. Does NOT make it right, but it does explain it

Men cheat for sex and women cheat for love. Generalization

If the cheaters had the balls to address their issues BEFORE going and getting their fix with someone else, alot of marriages could be saved and improved. It is BS when a spouse says "he/she drove me to it". No doubt the partner cheating was unhappy, but to cheat, just makes it worse

I would not cheat as it would be too demeaning to myself. If *I* was unhappy enough to be searching out a new mate, I would have the balls to say it. I would have the balls to say "I do not love you/like you and I have someone else I have feelings for"

Yes, emotional affairs are cheating. Kissing is cheating. Giving of yourself parts that are reserved for your spouse is cheating. Intimacy in any form is cheating.

My thoughts and feelings on it at least.

It is still sad that more women than not are cheating now. Very sad

Dont you just get the feeling youre living in a giant whore house

Originally posted by nukunuku
Dont you just get the feeling youre living in a giant whore house

would you rather be in a pancake house or a sausage house?

I'm sure the fesitivities of the sausage house would suck... haha pun intended.

I blame the Spice Girls.

But seriously, it's disgusting how many people find cheating "acceptable" in their social circles these days. It all comes down to a common increase of greed. Humans in general get greedier the more they get, and in turn people get greedier about everyday things, including sexual partners.

I can't help but laugh at this because it reminds me of an episode of House, MD. Dude comes in to the doctor with orange skin and narutally Dr House starts asking various questions about how the dude got orange skin. For the final question he asks how long his skin has been orange. The guy says for a little over a week so Dr House tells him "Your wife is cheating on you, heres how you get rid of the orange skin...." and sends him on his way. The look on his face explains that he knew what was up but it took the flaked-out insight of the Dr to come to grips with it.

My little digression out of the way, its not at all suprisin that rates of infidelity are so high, look at the divorce rate which surely is connected. Look at how families have changed with both parents often working to adequately provide. With so much time apart its no suprise that the opportunity will present itself for one to cheat. Granted I'm not trying to blame the fact now many women also work in the family unit as the reason for cheating, but having such a space between a couple doesnt help out the relationship at all.

To be quiet honest I think cheating is also a problem in relationships where sex is still high on the list of priorities and is supposed to be a large part of the relationship (at least according to society) If we didn't have these screwed up notions that were supposed to be like rabbits then perhaps there wouldnt be such a big deal with infidelity. I'll be the first to admit that sex can be amazingly fun, enjoyable, and even a sort of bonding experience in the right company, but too many stick with the ideals that its a driving force in a relationship and if your not getting it regularly something must obviously be wrong with you or the relationship.

LadyV, that's sooo true. I am a guy but had some ongoings with one my friend's girlfriend for some time, and all I realized is that she was flirting me just because she loved her guy too much, but the guy was too lazy, apathetic and selfish to pay attention to her and give her the affection she deserved. I think he's even homo but can't admit it. Anyways that's ugly, but yes, it's a lot better to simply leave than to cheat... But now there's something I still don't understand...

If a women does'nt feel like she's being treated properly by her boyfriend/husband, then why is it taht so much of them persist and stick with him just as if they had no other option in life??? I guess the answer is: love. But then why the hell do they cheat on their own feelings???

Maye it's just an instinctive behavior...

If my woman ever cheated, I would play stupid, take her on a trip to South America, sell her to a brothel for being a whore and leave her there.

Sounds like you have thought this one out.

Out of about 10 friends of mine they have all cheated on their wives and most of their wives have cheated on them. Marriage should be a 3 year contract. If you don't like it after 3 years just don't renew it.

That is so sad Cryptosa. That really gives me a sick feeling in my stomach.

In all honesty, I bet the infidelity rate among males is above 85%. Sad sad world we live in.

Why be married if you are going to cheat on one another.