posted on Dec, 3 2017 @ 01:06 AM
a reply to: theatreboy
Here's some hard truth. You are enabling your wife to continue this behavior by not leaving her so expect it to continue. The fact you have a 10
year old daughter should not preclude you from making an adult decision in the best interest of your daughter.
I am speculating if this behavior by your wife is so prevalent then there cannot be much in the way of a healthy relationship which will also be
apparent to your daughter. You certainly don't want your daughter being raised in such a dysfunctional relationship and seeing it as a "normalized"
manner between a husband and wife.
Don't get me wrong...we all have some level of dysfunction within our romantic relationships. However, there is a point where you have to realize
this is not a healthy environment to raise a young daughter. You would be better off as a single parent with your child where eventually enough time
will pass and she will hopefully grow to see you in a healthy relationship.
Now that I've said that I do realize there are a myriad of unknowns such as your wife's relationship with your daughter. Do they have one? Are they
close? Does your daughter idolize your wife? Will your wife fight you for custody of your daughter? Etc...
If you do leave her and she does want to battle you in court just be prepared for a lengthy and potentially nasty battle. However, if you keep in
mind your efforts are in the best interest of your child then you will persevere. I'm sorry this happened to you but you need to forget your
feelings and accept that your wife is and will continue to be unfaithful. You need to emotionally disconnect from the brain telling you to stay
together because of your child and do the right thing in the best interest of your daughter.
I'm nobody on some Internet forum so don't take my word for it. Perform some due diligence and educate yourself in advance of making a life changing
decision. Be prepared mentally, financially, etc. if you choose to leave this woman and fight for custody of your child.
Infidelity in certain courts in the country carry a lot of weight for child custody cases. It varies state by state so, again, perform some due
diligence. Contact a local family law attorney. Someone who is good. Very good. Go get a free consultation and lay it out for them. They are the
experts in how it will play out and they can give you much better advice than I can.
Good luck. Don't let it consume you. Keep your daughter first in your thoughts.