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Some Odd Relationship Issues I Thought I Should Share

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posted on Nov, 30 2017 @ 03:10 AM
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a reply to: TheBadCabbie

You're not my Ex are you?




posted on Nov, 30 2017 @ 05:24 AM
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a reply to: Sapphire

Not as far as I know, but if it's this same kind of weird jerk-mode stuff I'd be interested to hear of it if you're willing to tell of it.



posted on Nov, 30 2017 @ 07:39 AM
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You say these things are out of character for you.

But if you keep doing them...it means they ARE part of your character.



posted on Nov, 30 2017 @ 10:30 AM
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It sounds like fear of intimacy. Fear of losing your boundries of self, becoming enmeshed with another.
This is often a risk with people who were raised by a mother, without a father present. You develop a defense reflex of pushing people away when it looks like a intimate relationship could be on the horizon.

This "good" you, or "real" you, that you hold onto is what you are protecting. The people who get repulsed and pushed away by this behavior didn't reject that part, because it was hidden behind this devil you. You can still believe in yourself as being "good" (in ways you consider to be good, I mean).

Are we what we do, or what we think/feel inside? I think therefore I am is comforting. No matter what we do, it is that internal vision of ourself that is "real" and existing. But in the shared objective world, that part really has no value or existence. Here, in the physical world, you are what you do- what can be seen, felt or recognized by others. What good is it to love if that remains inside and nobody receives it?

Get some therapy. Or don't, it's just an idea, take it or leave it. But it is possible that you have trouble being in a relationship without your boundary of self melting completely and resulting in a relationship that is too intense.



posted on Nov, 30 2017 @ 10:41 AM
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Borderline Personality Disorder



posted on Nov, 30 2017 @ 10:42 AM
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originally posted by: TheBadCabbie

What do you think, ATS? Thanks in advance for your input.


Before you open your yapper to ANY new girl you meet or want to be with...ask yourself this FIRST:



LOL..couldn't resist. But hey...it may turn you into a NICER guy.

edit on 30-11-2017 by Skywatcher2011 because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 30 2017 @ 10:57 AM
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a reply to: TheBadCabbie


Also, it's not like I am just constantly or consistently mean to women. I just seem to have a talent for sabotaging my relationships with the ones I really like, who also like me.


Sounds like a defense mechanism. You unconsciously do these things, and have no control over them, in order to sabotage your relationships so you are not the one who gets hurt in the end by being dumped or left while having such strong feelings.

Or, a fear of being tied to one person, so psychologically you sabotage these relationships to feel in control or more free.


Buried feelings of inadequacy. I feel like I'm not good enough or something, so I chase them off before I can assault them with my 'not good enough-ness'.


That, too, or what I said above.



posted on Nov, 30 2017 @ 05:26 PM
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Well the next time you feel you want or need to act this way.. just send her my way, I'll take care of her since you can't or don't want to.



posted on Dec, 1 2017 @ 10:20 PM
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question 2 might be helpful?

kotaku.com...



posted on Dec, 4 2017 @ 01:47 AM
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Thanks to everyone who has replied so far. I want to hold off before replying more, do some more contemplation of this topic.



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