posted on Nov, 13 2017 @ 08:30 AM
Not every human is the same. There are no 'women' and 'men', there are of course but among those, there is a hell of a lot of difference.
I am saying that because I am weird. Don't want to go into too much detail but I almost lose it when guys at work start flirting. I am happily married
for over 25 years and I intent to keep it that way. Only I can take things to extremes because my thinking is different from other people.
If you hit on me, it could be that I spent the rest of the day having almost panic attacks. It could even be that I quit working in that place if it
isn't sorted. I shouldn't even be in that situation.
I have always treated work as a professional setting and colleagues as just that. Not friends, not sex partners, just colleagues that should do work.
That said, I had more than my fair share of sexual 'harrassment'. As someone said before, I don't know any female that hasn't!
It ranged from being touched on my privates when I was a totally naive 12 yr old in a department store to actually being sexually used without consent
more than once and all in between [old men rubbing themselves on me from behind when I was a kid, others following me, whipping their dongs out and
far more. I let it all slip by, no police because most women still think that this is how it is because it is just so COMMON!.
Now that I am older I understand that this was abuse, to make another human feel uncomfortable, unhappy or even confused. Why is it ok to do this to
Especially if it is a boss [also had experience there], touching your knee and rubbing slightly too high up your leg, whilst talking science...
WHat do you do? I am normally big mouthed and say it as it is, yet in some situations I am not. And why is it ok to put me into those situations?
Women are someone's daughter, sister, mum, wife. They are beings with fears and worries, not just dolls or nasty stirrers [even though there are
As to the asking outright. You can try if it is not at work but it is pretty sleazy and disgusting because I am not like that at all and you thought I
The last time someone asked me outright was actually as hilarious as it was bad.
Not only was my husband in the house but the guy who pumps out our cesspit chatted a bit with me [and thought probably that that's enough to ask for
sex] and at the end when I waited at the door to his lorry for a receipt, [I had his shIt covered shoes at eye hight], when he said "Do you fancy
meeting up some time for fun?"
It was the least sexy or appropriate setting ever. Looking at his shoes with the bits clinging on...I declined, laughing and instantly told my
husband, we are still laughing at it today.
But what lowlife did he think I was?
No need for wine and dine, getting to know me, having a laugh...no, with shIt on his shoe, whilst writing a receipt, he thought 'it can't do any harm
That's what's bothering me most. Did he go by looks? Because I like to make an effort, I am 'up for it'? How rude. I was reduced to some organ, when
in fact I am quite a deep personality with a lot of experiences in life.
It's all those things that make you feel inhuman as a woman sometimes.
There are two kinds of men. The nice [usually intelligent ones] that can hold a conversation, crack jokes and don't make you feel they think about
having sex with you all the time and Neanderthals.
Entitled, sexist and usually of low IQ, who don't see anything wrong with it.
The latter whine and go to extremes saying 'I won't talk to any women ever again otherwise I am seen as a rapist'. Do you hear yourselves? There are
in betweens. You could just not wanting sex from every woman you meet. Women can be funny, entertaining and good to hang out with just like any other
human. They are not just good for sex.
Yet that is what you are saying [using slightly different words] "Oh, if I can't touch, rub or invite them for a shag, I don't know what else I can do
with women because everything I do is always creepy", is what I hear. Maybe you are a creep then!
Trust me if you lot who think like that, would do what you preach [never to speak to a woman again] then the world would be a better place for
Fortunately there are proper males out there that wouldn't think like that and are not afraid that someone might think they are a rapist, because they
know what is appropriate and what isn't! If you don't know, you need some therapy as there is something not right with you.