Im in an odd situation and have no idea how to handle it. Ive never dated in my life and im 17. Ive come upon a situation and was hoping to get advice here. The other day at a local store I had a cute cashier obvisouly hit on me. I discarded it thinking I was imagining things until yesterday I went with family and they kepts on pestering me saying to ask her out cause she was hitting on me etc... (story broken down in short).

Anyways... How should I go about asking her out or getting to know here? Dont want her to get in trouble and honestly ive never had a crush like this in my life. Help me before I go crazy.

Go see her as much as you can. Flirt back with her.
When it feels right ask her out. By this time you should know her well and will have a good idea for a great date.
Good luck.

Umbrax,
Thanks for the advice. Thing is im not much of a smooth talker. 90% of the time I dont even know what to say. This being said I have no idea where to start.


I really hate this situation cause I wasnt plannin on dating till I persued my career. But I see something in her and can resist but dunno what to do. I dunno if any of you have been in a similar situation but it sucks.

If you feel like you don't know what to say then you probably need to build up some self confidence.
A safe route to take is to shut up and listen to her and ask questions about her.
She obviously finds you attractive. That is half the battle.

Well either she could be really flirty or she's sweet on you, all i can say is have two conversations with her(on different days), and if you feel comfortable ask her to the movies and dinner. don't wait to long or your window might close. And if she says no,No worries If she's a pretty girl ,she probably gets it all the time and wont think ill of you for asking her.

Originally posted by Umbrax
If you feel like you don't know what to say then you probably need to build up some self confidence.
A safe route to take is to shut up and listen to her and ask questions about her.
She obviously finds you attractive. That is half the battle.

Its not as much the self confidence I have. At least not in looks. I havent been very social since ive lived in Florida so that explains a lot. It wont seem weird asking her out will it? I wouldnt want to creep her out figuring how I shop there almost daily. Ill take the advice given though and put it to use. Thanks again. If anyone else has opinions please post em.

One of my best friends worked at a variety store in high school, she always had this guy come in and they would flirt with eachother...

5 yeras later, they are living together and have kittens lol...

he's the one who gave her his number..




[edit on 12-2-2005 by TrueLies]

Hey,
I was unable to go see her today and ask her. Ive actually been trying to ask her out the past week. She wasnt there most of the week and the day I was going to I chickend out cause family was with me . Anyways im really feeling like crap over this and plan on asking her tommorrow if I see her. I hope its not to late. I feel ive taken to much time on this and I may have blown it even though she was still hitting on me the day before yesterda. Ahhh just thought id post whats going on!

Like someone else said, you've already won half the battle. There is no excuse, at this point, for not capitalizing and taking advantage of the situation. Many of us don't even win a quarter of the battle.

Im such a dumbass. In a way I sorta feel like dying lol. I got there today and was about to ask her and I was at a loss of words completely on top of that shes didnt seem as happy as other days. I think iv blown man chance. What a dumbass I am. At least I learned a lesson for the future. Unless one of you think theres still a chance to undo the screw up ive done.

There is always a way to get a girl to like you any guys has a chance of sweeping a girl off of her feet next time you see her go up to her and be nice and introduce yourself and then ask her some questions and do not worry everybody is nervous about asking a girl out at one time in their life.
And if you start a conversation complament her on something tell her she has beautiful eyes and then if she says thank you or anything along those lines just say I was wondering if you would go on a date with me.

I have tons more information but try that one first.